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Reality Check: Marriage — Who’s in Charge?
If you’re happily married, you may have an easy, good-humoured response to the question of who’s in charge in your marriage. Did you say, “my wife/husband”? If you’re struggling in your marriage, however, you may also have a quick response … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged improving relationships, need satisfaction, power
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Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
Fundamental to choice theory is its emphasis on our basic human need for love and belonging. One way we attempt to satisfy that need is through marriage. The idea of marriage is great. Two people publicly declare their love and … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships, internal & external control, unhappiness
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Reality Check: If Only I Were…
It’s easy to find faults in others if one is inclined to do so. If you choose a mindset that compares others to your own internal standard of “how people should be,” you’ll readily see how they fall short. If … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged choosing thoughts, perception, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Terminal Choice
Some choices have longer-lasting consequences than others. The choice of a career, schooling, or home has consequences. The choice of a spouse can have life-changing consequences. Even choices that may seem trivial at the time, such as whether to choose … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, making choices, offering information
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Reality Check: A Model of Motivation
I have some ambivalence about the positive thinking business. It is a business, after all, with books, articles, and motivational speakers. Much of our culture encourages positive thinking, and you’ve even seen suggestions here in this column. Positive thinking complements … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, motivation
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Reality Check: High Anxietying
Our language often suggests that we are the passive recipients of our feelings. When we say, “I’m down; I’m sad” or even, “I’m in love, I’m happy!” there’s an implication that feelings just happen. In choice theory language, however, instead … Continue reading
Posted in How it is sometimes
Tagged anxiety, making choices, worry
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Reality Check: Do, Run, Run…
Last time, I looked at what can happen when a dreamer avoids doing. Taken to the extreme, the dreamer who is stuck on dreaming may never take the action necessary to turn their dream into reality. How about the other … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged internal & external control, making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: What Does Love & Support Look Like?
Valentine’s Day is around the corner, so along with eating heart-shaped candies and buying heart-shaped jewellery, it seems like an appropriate time to think about love. What does love and support look like to you? If you buy into some … Continue reading
Posted in Love & Belonging
Tagged examining wants, happiness, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Thank you; I accept your offer
Do you find it hard to accept gifts? If you fret about what other people think about you, accepting can be difficult. Gillian has money woes. She lost financial ground after a job loss and went into debt. Although she’s … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing actions, gratitude, perception
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