Greetings!
Welcome to Reality Check:
articles and observations inspired by the work of Dr. William GlasserCategories
Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour
Reality Check: The Fairest of Them All
No, this column isn’t about Snow White; it’s about fairness. Of course, Snow White’s beauty did offer her an unfair advantage over the wicked queen. And, the wicked queen had the unfair advantage of power. Fairness is complicated, isn’t it? … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged conflict, fairness, win-win
Comments Off on Reality Check: The Fairest of Them All
Reality Check: Can’t, Won’t, Don’t? or Can, Will, Do?
I can’t, I won’t, I don’t want! There’s always something that we can’t do, won’t do, or don’t want. And, there are things that we can do, will do, and do want. Which is most helpful to focus on? Elyssa … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged examining wants, perception, unhappiness
Comments Off on Reality Check: Can’t, Won’t, Don’t? or Can, Will, Do?
Reality Check: Thinking of “Thank You”
Self-help programs often promote the benefits of gratitude. Especially during those times when you are feeling particularly ungrateful, thinking and saying “thank you” can be really helpful. Let’s say you wake up feeling grumpy. Sometimes it happens! There may be … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged making choices, total behaviour, unhappiness
Comments Off on Reality Check: Thinking of “Thank You”
Reality Check: An Unworkable Conflict
Opportunities for conflict abound. That’s reality. Whether those conflicts grow into overwhelming difficulties or fade into minor irritations can depend largely on the choices we make. That’s reality therapy. What behaviours are helpful when we’re faced with a conflict?
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged conflict, making choices, unhappiness
Comments Off on Reality Check: An Unworkable Conflict
Control, Need-Satisfaction, and Alcohol
Do you know someone who is trapped in a difficult, unsatisfying situation? It’s painful to watch, isn’t it? It’s even worse if you perceive that a happy, satisfying life could be readily available. Mick and Minnie’s friends see a simple … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged conflict, need satisfaction, unhappiness
Comments Off on Control, Need-Satisfaction, and Alcohol
A New Year, A New Blog
The beginning of another year often inspires folks to look at their lives and choose to make resolutions to change. While we could resolve to make a change any time, it seems easier when others are doing it too…providing us … Continue reading
Contradictory Behaviours
Do you know anyone who says they want to change, but whose actions lead away from the result they say they want? It happens, and it’s much easier to recognize that behaviour in others than in us. Of course, that … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged need satisfaction, negotiation, win-win
Comments Off on Contradictory Behaviours
Self evaluate your behavioural choices
How do you react when you are faced with a challenge? All of us have problems; however, different people choose different responses. Maynard’s usual approach, described in the last column, is to withdraw from people and concentrate on his problem. … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged making choices, self-evaluation
Comments Off on Self evaluate your behavioural choices
What makes a choice effective?
Wouldn’t it be great if we could always choose the most effective behaviour for every situation? Wouldn’t that make our lives better and more satisfying? Some people do lead more satisfying lives than others. And while fate or luck may … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged examining wants, making choices, self-evaluation
Comments Off on What makes a choice effective?