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Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour
Reality Check: Mottoes, Slogans, and Sayings
“Live your dream!” “Take pride in your work” “Be true to yourself!” “Have a great day!” We’ve all heard them, and maybe even used them. These are the slogans, mottoes, and sayings that we sometimes use to replace thoughtful conversation. … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", internal & external control, learning
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Reality Check: Optimism or Pessimism: Can you choose?
If pessimism has a hold on you, the idea that you can choose optimism instead won’t sound very realistic. What is optimism, anyway? Reality therapy says that behaviour has four aspects: thinking, feeling, action, and physiological effects. You can “feel … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, making choices
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Reality Check: Speak up or stand down, continued
We’ve already looked at a couple who had neglected to share important aspects of their lives with each other until it was almost too late. It is important to recognize when it’s time to speak up about what you are … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Worry Stoppers
“It is within your power to feel better.” That’s according to Dr. Bob Wubbolding, in “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together.” How much power do you have over your feelings? In choice theory, we say that … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged anxiety, making choices, worry
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Reality Check: The Behaviour of Worrying
Whether it’s a significant fear or just a twinge of uneasiness, most folks experience the state of “being worried” from time to time. A variety of actions and thoughts come along for the ride when our main behaviour is worrying. … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, making choices, worry
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Reality Check: To Temper a Temper
Aren’t words fun? The phrase “to temper” means to calm, whereas a person who “has a temper” is angry. If you have a temper, do you have a choice? Or is your temper out of your control? Josie has a … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, internal & external control
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Reality Check: At the mercy of events?
Whether you are on the search for your first job or your fifteenth, during the job-hunt process, you’ll likely experience both encouraging and disheartening events. Those events can trigger feelings: excitement and optimism after a good interview; distress and discouragement … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, making choices
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Reality Check: Effective Living in a Material World
Karen, introduced last column, has bones to pick with society and its emphasis on materialism. At the drop of a hat (or shopping bag) Karen can launch into a tirade. Her theme: “We are bombarded with high pressure sales; credit … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", choosing actions, making choices
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Reality Check: A Material World
Time and again, I hear folks say, “We are too materialistic; we buy too much; we throw too much away. We have too much debt, we have too much stress; we should stop living like this.” Does that sound familiar … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", guilt, internal & external control
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