Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour

Reality Check: Pattern Making

Posted on June 28, 2013 by RealityCheck

We’re all familiar with habits. We do the same thing over and over; a choice becomes so ingrained that it seems automatic.  For example, I wake up; I drink coffee. No thought involved! Rick has a habit of buying exercise … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Goal

Posted on June 16, 2013 by RealityCheck

One term that’s used in goal setting is the BHAG—that stands for the Big Hairy Audacious Goal. (No, I’m not making this up.) Even if your goals are neither hairy nor audacious, the principle of setting goals and maintaining awareness … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror continued

Posted on May 26, 2013 by RealityCheck

Last time, I introduced you to Sam, who has been having conflicts with just about everyone, most recently including the law. As you care about Sam, you want to help. Sam has already told you that he doesn’t want to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror

Posted on May 19, 2013 by RealityCheck

 If you’ve ever watched someone you care about act in ways that are non-effective, or even self-destructive, then you know how difficult it is to stand by. You may feel that you need to say or do something. Samuel’s family … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Saddle Up!

Posted on May 12, 2013 by RealityCheck

The professional organization that’s associated with teaching the world Choice Theory occasionally sends out inspirational quotes. A recent one came from an unexpected source: John Wayne. According to the Duke, “Courage is when you are scared to death, but you … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Fight That Never Happens

Posted on April 21, 2013 by RealityCheck

Does the tension and stress in your life contribute to your physical health? Likely so. Is there anything that you can do about it? That’s the big question, isn’t it?  

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Reality Check: Hot Buttons

Posted on March 17, 2013 by RealityCheck

“He pushes my buttons! He knows that I have a temper so he gets me going; then he walks away smirking as if he had nothing to do with it. He does it on purpose to get me into trouble. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Evaluate your Information

Posted on February 3, 2013 by RealityCheck

Is depression linked to drinking diet drinks? Do teenage drivers have more daytime accidents than at night? And can you really prevent diabetes by eating more cheese? A new day; a new study. The media breathlessly reports what we now … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Hoped-for results

Posted on January 13, 2013 by RealityCheck

Many of us like to think that we base our important decisions on facts and logic. Sometimes, however, our “hoped-for” results crowd out our logical assessments. Let’s look at Molly and Bill, whose life together includes a home and small … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: For a fresh start, write your “wants”

Posted on January 6, 2013 by RealityCheck

Any time is an opportunity for a fresh start. We could work on improving our lives and relationships continuously, all year long. Just because we could, though, doesn’t mean that we do! However, when a new year rolls around, it … Continue reading →

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