Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour

Reality Check: Your own influence

Posted on October 6, 2013 by RealityCheck

In my last column, I discussed the influence of Dr. William Glasser. His books and the training that’s offered in choice theory and reality therapy has an impact on folks all over the world. However, it’s not only world-renowned authors, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Dr. Glasser’s influence

Posted on September 29, 2013 by RealityCheck

Dr. William Glasser passed away recently. Even though it’s less than a decade since I first became aware of choice theory and reality therapy, Dr. Glasser’s work now influences almost everything I do. There are plenty of theories about why … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Dragonfly’s Options

Posted on September 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

A dragonfly trapped himself in the porch the other day. You know how that goes, don’t you? For a long time, he beat his head and wings against the closed window, while the open door stood beckoning barely six inches … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Pattern Making

Posted on June 28, 2013 by RealityCheck

We’re all familiar with habits. We do the same thing over and over; a choice becomes so ingrained that it seems automatic. For example, I wake up; I drink coffee. No thought involved! Rick has a habit of buying exercise … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Goal

Posted on June 16, 2013 by RealityCheck

One term that’s used in goal setting is the BHAG—that stands for the Big Hairy Audacious Goal. (No, I’m not making this up.) Even if your goals are neither hairy nor audacious, the principle of setting goals and maintaining awareness … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror continued

Posted on May 26, 2013 by RealityCheck

Last time, I introduced you to Sam, who has been having conflicts with just about everyone, most recently including the law. As you care about Sam, you want to help. Sam has already told you that he doesn’t want to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror

Posted on May 19, 2013 by RealityCheck

If you’ve ever watched someone you care about act in ways that are non-effective, or even self-destructive, then you know how difficult it is to stand by. You may feel that you need to say or do something. Samuel’s family … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Saddle Up!

Posted on May 12, 2013 by RealityCheck

The professional organization that’s associated with teaching the world Choice Theory occasionally sends out inspirational quotes. A recent one came from an unexpected source: John Wayne. According to the Duke, “Courage is when you are scared to death, but you … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Fight That Never Happens

Posted on April 21, 2013 by RealityCheck

Does the tension and stress in your life contribute to your physical health? Likely so. Is there anything that you can do about it? That’s the big question, isn’t it?

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Reality Check: Hot Buttons

Posted on March 17, 2013 by RealityCheck

“He pushes my buttons! He knows that I have a temper so he gets me going; then he walks away smirking as if he had nothing to do with it. He does it on purpose to get me into trouble. … Continue reading →

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