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Reality Check: Power and Embarrassment
Fear of embarrassment is powerful. Some folks will do almost anything to avoid feeling embarrassed. Why? According to choice theory, among the basic needs that we all share is a need for power; that is, to be respected and valued. … Continue reading →
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Tagged basic needs, examining options, offering information
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Reality Check: Power in Retirement
Among other needs, Dr. Wm. Glasser asserts that we all have a basic need for power. Before you get too excited and protest that you have no such need, let’s explore what that power need might look like. If you … Continue reading →
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Tagged basic needs, examining options, examining wants
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Reality Check: Retirement Planning
Retirement planning is often associated with money. You already know that money isn’t everything, so let’s try looking at retirement planning from a choice theory perspective. According to choice theory, we all have a set of basic needs: survival, love … Continue reading →
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Tagged examining options, examining wants, happiness
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Reality check: Forgetfulness Choices
When we met to catch up, my friend realized that she had forgotten to bring her pictures. Discussing those pictures was the main reason for our get-together. But we didn’t have them and it wasn’t practical to go get them. … Continue reading →
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
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Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, examining options, perception
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Reality Check: Truth or Kindness?
Here’s a quandary for you. Martin and Maria are happily married and devoted to each other. Maria has a cat, Fluffy. Fluffy was Maria’s mother’s companion, and since Maria’s mom passed away, Fluffy has become even more precious to Maria. … Continue reading →
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Tagged "should", examining options, improving relationships
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Reality Check: More Choice Language
The language we use can both reflect and shape our attitudes. While “choice language” usually refers to something a little spicier, in this column, choice language refers to words and phrases that reflect our choices and our areas of control. … Continue reading →
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Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, examining options
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Reality Check: Entertaining Options
Are there actions in your life that you do mindlessly? For example, when you sit down to watch TV, do you choose the program? Or do you sit in front of whatever happens to be on, perhaps complaining (verbally or … Continue reading →
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Tagged choosing actions, examining options, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Strings Attached
The book, Choice Theory, by Dr. William Glasser is subtitled, “A New Psychology of Personal Freedom.” Glasser points out that the world is full of folks trying to control each other. These controlling behaviours cause plenty of misery—certainly for the … Continue reading →
Posted in Personal Freedom
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Tagged choosing actions, examining options, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Lessons from First Aid
Whenever I have the good fortune to participate in training, I try to figure out whether the skills I’m learning can be more broadly applied. In first aid, for example, there’s the principle of protecting your own safety. Don’t put … Continue reading →
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Tagged "should", examining options, guilt
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Reality Check: Wit’s end?
Are you ever at your “wit’s end?” You try everything you can think of to respond to a problem (usually a person-related problem), but nothing works to create the result you want. Interactions with others are sometimes delightful, other times … Continue reading →
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