Tag Archives: examining options

Reality Check: The Voter’s Choice

Posted on October 11, 2015 by RealityCheck

Election season continues. Far from being happy about having a say in how our country is governed, some folks are responding with frustration, confusion, and “Why bother voting? Here are the main objections I’ve been hearing: 1. Politicians are all … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When I Grow Up

Posted on August 16, 2015 by RealityCheck

“I’m still trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up.” You’d expect that from children, teenagers, and young adults. Yet I hear it from folks who are well into their working lives or even in retirement. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Choice Not Taken

Posted on August 2, 2015 by RealityCheck

After we’ve made a choice, the option we’ve chosen seems to become our focus. For example, you make a choice in a restaurant: “I’ll have the fish and chips, please.” When your fish arrives, it’s your focus. You might be … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Engagement as an Employability Skill

Posted on July 27, 2015 by RealityCheck

Skills such as getting along with others, overcoming shyness, and developing a willingness to learn can help us get and keep employment. I’ve been referring to these as “employability skills.” Even if you don’t care deeply about your workplace, such … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Do I want to be excused?

Posted on March 22, 2015 by RealityCheck

May I be excused? A more effective question is, “Do I want to be excused?” Taking it one step further, “Do I want to make excuses for myself?” What is the purpose of an excuse? It provides a way of … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Adversity: Can Thinking Help?

Posted on March 15, 2015 by RealityCheck

Nothing’s really bad or good, but thinking makes it so. Did Shakespeare get it right? Sooner or later, most of us face adversity. For some types of adversity, we have control over whether the result is a huge disruption or … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Power and Embarrassment

Posted on February 15, 2015 by RealityCheck

Fear of embarrassment is powerful. Some folks will do almost anything to avoid feeling embarrassed. Why? According to choice theory, among the basic needs that we all share is a need for power; that is, to be respected and valued. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Power in Retirement

Posted on October 26, 2014 by RealityCheck

Among other needs, Dr. Wm. Glasser asserts that we all have a basic need for power. Before you get too excited and protest that you have no such need, let’s explore what that power need might look like. If you … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Retirement Planning

Posted on October 12, 2014 by RealityCheck

Retirement planning is often associated with money. You already know that money isn’t everything, so let’s try looking at retirement planning from a choice theory perspective. According to choice theory, we all have a set of basic needs: survival, love … Continue reading →

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Reality check: Forgetfulness Choices

Posted on September 21, 2014 by RealityCheck

When we met to catch up, my friend realized that she had forgotten to bring her pictures. Discussing those pictures was the main reason for our get-together. But we didn’t have them and it wasn’t practical to go get them. … Continue reading →

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