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Reality Check: Other People’s Misery

Do you ever find yourself embracing misery that isn’t really yours? John does. Unlike others in his extended family, John feels that he has a duty to visit and maintain connection with his great-uncle Matthew. Far from expressing appreciation, Matthew … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Voter’s Choice

Election season continues. Far from being happy about having a say in how our country is governed, some folks are responding with frustration, confusion, and “Why bother voting? Here are the main objections I’ve been hearing: 1. Politicians are all … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Habit-Forming

It’s commonly said that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. It’s tempting to believe that if you rigidly adhere to a new behaviour for a set number of days, then it magically becomes engrained in you. You … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Value of Delayed Gratification

Would you stop drinking all sugary drinks for a year for $500? That’s the offer that one family made to their children. You could view that as bribery. Or, you could view it as an innovative teaching method. Regardless, one … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Recalculating

Year end is a fine time to think about the big questions of life, such as: Where do I want to go? How will I get there? If you’re familiar with a certain brand of GPS (I call mine Martha) … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Gift of the Long View

When her credit card bill arrived last January, Jessica came face-to-face with the reality of the shopping she’d done over the previous months. She had no idea that she had spent so much! Yet when she checked the charges, she … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Here’s to a Satisfying Holiday

For some folks, the prospect of holidays and the expectations that come with them can evoke feelings that are closer to dread than joy. And if our perception is that others effortlessly produce perfect food, gifts, and parties while surrounded … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Power in Retirement

Among other needs, Dr. Wm. Glasser asserts that we all have a basic need for power. Before you get too excited and protest that you have no such need, let’s explore what that power need might look like. If you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Retirement Planning

Retirement planning is often associated with money. You already know that money isn’t everything, so let’s try looking at retirement planning from a choice theory perspective. According to choice theory, we all have a set of basic needs: survival, love … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Remembering the “Why” of To-do

It’s a beautiful day. You, however, have to go to work. And mow the lawn. And take the kids to practice, the cat to the vet, and visit the in-laws. Does it seem that your to-do list goes on and … Continue reading

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