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Reality Check: Out of the Ashes

When good things happen, when our needs and expectations are being met, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to feel satisfied and happy. However, when bad things happen, we’re given the delightful and very useful gift of an opportunity … Continue reading

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Reality Check:The Happiness of Turning Toward

Have I told you lately that I love you? In any series of articles that’s looking to help increase our happiness, you knew that sooner or later, love would have to show up! It’s well-established that an important factor in … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Rely and to Be Reliable

There’s a particular satisfaction for me when someone I know has made progress in their life. It’s especially gratifying if I can perceive that I had contributed to that progress, even in a tiny way. Often, the achievements are relatively … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Proactive Happiness

In this series of columns on happiness, my goal is to help answer the question, “What can we do to be happier?” One excellent resource is “Mastering Happiness,” where Dr. Joel Wade discusses ten specific practices. If you adopt them, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choices of Conversation

It’s that time of year when people get together. Perhaps you’ll attend an office party to socialize with your fellow workers. Perhaps you’ll catch up with seldom-seen relatives. Maybe you’ll be partying with friends. In any case, it’s possible you’ll … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Fear of Being Hurtful

Conflict is a human reality. Whenever two or more people need to interact, there’s an opportunity for conflict. Actually, I’ll take that back. Conflict doesn’t always require two people; there are times when I don’t even agree with myself! So … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Time Trap

There exists a near-universal excuse to get out of most any activity. It goes like this: “Oh, I’m sorry. I don’t have enough time to do that.” Have you ever used this excuse? I have. So many people feel time-stressed … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Demonstrations of Love

Dr. Wm. Glasser says that all humans need love and belonging. Some people need a lot; others not so much, but everybody has this genetic need. We have other genetic needs too, but for now, we’ll just look at love. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Your Restore Point

To counteract some of the computer problems that occasionally occur, there’s a handy little built-in mechanism that enables you to set or choose a “restore point.” Think of it as a way to do some backwards time- travelling. Something’s wrong? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Can I Ruin Your Vacation?

Just to be clear, I don’t want to ruin your vacation! Nor am I asking, “May I ruin your vacation?” as in, “Will you give me permission to ruin your vacation?” No, my question is, “Do I have the ability … Continue reading

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