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Reality Check: The Fear of Being Hurtful
Conflict is a human reality. Whenever two or more people need to interact, there’s an opportunity for conflict. Actually, I’ll take that back. Conflict doesn’t always require two people; there are times when I don’t even agree with myself! So … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged anxiety, conflict, improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: The Time Trap
There exists a near-universal excuse to get out of most any activity. It goes like this: “Oh, I’m sorry. I don’t have enough time to do that.” Have you ever used this excuse? I have. So many people feel time-stressed … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged examining wants, guilt, improving relationships, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Demonstrations of Love
Dr. Wm. Glasser says that all humans need love and belonging. Some people need a lot; others not so much, but everybody has this genetic need. We have other genetic needs too, but for now, we’ll just look at love. … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged basic needs, choosing actions, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Choosing Your Restore Point
To counteract some of the computer problems that occasionally occur, there’s a handy little built-in mechanism that enables you to set or choose a “restore point.” Think of it as a way to do some backwards time- travelling. Something’s wrong? … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged gratitude, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: Can I Ruin Your Vacation?
Just to be clear, I don’t want to ruin your vacation! Nor am I asking, “May I ruin your vacation?” as in, “Will you give me permission to ruin your vacation?” No, my question is, “Do I have the ability … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged freedom, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: I Heard a Story
I heard a story recently. Here’s how it goes: “When mom was admitted to the hospital, the nurse asked me to come in and show them how I handle mom’s feeding tube.” What was your first reaction to that statement? … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged choosing thoughts, examining wants, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: The Little Red Hens
Do you visualize how things should be? For example, do you picture how kids should act? What your spouse should do? How friends should behave? Perhaps you have bigger pictures, such as how the county should progress, how the country … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: A Step in the “Take Charge” Direction
The word “crisis” conveys a sense of urgency and it’s sometimes associated with the mental health system, accompanied by commentary that there aren’t enough resources and things are getting worse. Perhaps that’s true; perhaps it’s not. Allocation of resources will … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Freedom
Tagged improving relationships, offering information, unhappiness
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Reality Check: The Reluctant Leader
In a workplace, folks sometimes find themselves “promoted” into a position they’d really rather not have, but perceive that they have no choice but to accept. Shelly has been appointed the informal leader of her team. At the time, it … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged improving relationships, motivation, power
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Reality Check: Relationships and the Power Need
Last time, I suggested that a marriage where both people have a high need for power and low need for love and belonging may present challenges. However, that doesn’t mean that such a couple is doomed to a life of … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, examining wants, improving relationships, need satisfaction
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