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Reality Check: Marriage — Who’s in Charge?
If you’re happily married, you may have an easy, good-humoured response to the question of who’s in charge in your marriage. Did you say, “my wife/husband”? If you’re struggling in your marriage, however, you may also have a quick response … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged improving relationships, need satisfaction, power
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Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
Fundamental to choice theory is its emphasis on our basic human need for love and belonging. One way we attempt to satisfy that need is through marriage. The idea of marriage is great. Two people publicly declare their love and … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships, internal & external control, unhappiness
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Reality Check: What Does Love & Support Look Like?
Valentine’s Day is around the corner, so along with eating heart-shaped candies and buying heart-shaped jewellery, it seems like an appropriate time to think about love. What does love and support look like to you? If you buy into some … Continue reading
Posted in Love & Belonging
Tagged examining wants, happiness, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The Value of Support
Last post, I told a little story about Sally and her intent to invite a roommate to share her living space. Based on your knowledge of the situation, you anticipated that this arrangement wouldn’t work well. In other words, you … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: If I Know What’s Right for You…
Do you know what’s right for someone else? It’s easy to think that we know exactly what someone should do, think, or feel. And then, it’s easy to tell them! Dr. William Glasser associates the “I-know-what’s-right-for-you” perspective with misery. In … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: The Scorekeeping Relationship
Last time, I made a case for keeping score in our lives. Keeping track of data about how we spend our time, what we do with our money, or even how much we eat can be helpful. It provides us … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", comparing with others, fairness, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Better Left Unsaid?
Communication is generally recognized as being essential to the development of satisfying relationships. I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here. All kinds of relationships: friends, work-related, parent-child, student-teacher, benefit when people can communicate effectively. Did you notice the word … Continue reading
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Tagged criticism, frustration, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along… But How?
Last post, I suggested that the skill of “getting along” is essential if you are to succeed in most any workplace. If you find yourself in disputes or isolated from your co-workers, then it may help to work on your … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, improving relationships, win-win
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Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along
Employability skills are the skills that help you get and keep a job. You might have thought that the technical skills that enable you to do your specific job are all you need in the way of employability skills. For … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, conflict, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Friendly Support
“You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family!” As we can, indeed, choose our friends, it makes sense that friendship would be supportive, encouraging, and helpful for both people. But that’s not always the case. Some friend … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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