Tag Archives: internal & external control

Reality Check: Do, Run, Run…

Last time, I looked at what can happen when a dreamer avoids doing. Taken to the extreme, the dreamer who is stuck on dreaming may never take the action necessary to turn their dream into reality. How about the other … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Ups and Downs of Perception

Do you make your decisions and choose your actions based on facts and evidence? While it’s a worthwhile aspiration, it is easier said than done because along with those objective facts, we also have our perceptions. What we perceive about … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Boundaries and Disputes

Boundaries can create cause for dispute. Sometimes, however, setting a boundary can be an effective way to diffuse a dispute. Emma has endured criticism from her mother all her life. In her youthful rush to get married and away from … Continue reading

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Reality Check: So, you’re angry. Who’s in charge?

Anger, like many negative emotions, can ruin your whole day, eh? Depending on the severity, anger can leave a bad taste for weeks, months, or even a whole lifetime. It may be tempting to believe that we can’t control our … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Strings Attached

The book, Choice Theory, by Dr. William Glasser is subtitled, “A New Psychology of Personal Freedom.” Glasser points out that the world is full of folks trying to control each other. These controlling behaviours cause plenty of misery—certainly for the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Great Expectations

Hannah perceives that she is criticized. When family or friends get together, she comes away feeling like an underachiever. Her brother’s children excel, her sister makes more money, and her friends’ lives are more exciting. Although no one is critical … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Different people; different strengths

Different people are different. OK, you knew that already. Something else you may know is that there are people who think, believe, and act in ways that can seem baffling. At some point, you will likely find yourself working, interacting, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Dr. Glasser’s influence

Dr. William Glasser passed away recently. Even though it’s less than a decade since I first became aware of choice theory and reality therapy, Dr. Glasser’s work now influences almost everything I do. There are plenty of theories about why … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Before Putting Mouth in Gear…

A long time ago, in a workplace far away, there was a poster taped above my workbench. It read, “Engage brain before putting mouth in gear.” I choose to believe that the poster wasn’t put there specifically for me, by … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Archie, Meathead, and External Control

If you recognize the title of this column from “All in the Family,” then either you remember the 70s or you have been watching TV reruns! Regardless of whether you loved it or hated it, that TV sitcom has become … Continue reading

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