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Tag Archives: internal & external control
Reality Check: Can I Ruin Your Vacation?
Just to be clear, I don’t want to ruin your vacation! Nor am I asking, “May I ruin your vacation?” as in, “Will you give me permission to ruin your vacation?” No, my question is, “Do I have the ability … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged freedom, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Wisdom from Whys
The “5 Whys” is a technique that’s sometimes used in workplaces to analyze and solve problems. We use 5 Whys because it can help us figure out the “the root cause” of a problem. The root cause is like the … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged examining wants, internal & external control, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Little Red Hens
Do you visualize how things should be? For example, do you picture how kids should act? What your spouse should do? How friends should behave? Perhaps you have bigger pictures, such as how the county should progress, how the country … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
Fundamental to choice theory is its emphasis on our basic human need for love and belonging. One way we attempt to satisfy that need is through marriage. The idea of marriage is great. Two people publicly declare their love and … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships, internal & external control, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Do, Run, Run…
Last time, I looked at what can happen when a dreamer avoids doing. Taken to the extreme, the dreamer who is stuck on dreaming may never take the action necessary to turn their dream into reality. How about the other … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged internal & external control, making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Ups and Downs of Perception
Do you make your decisions and choose your actions based on facts and evidence? While it’s a worthwhile aspiration, it is easier said than done because along with those objective facts, we also have our perceptions. What we perceive about … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged internal & external control, making choices, perception
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Reality Check: Boundaries and Disputes
Boundaries can create cause for dispute. Sometimes, however, setting a boundary can be an effective way to diffuse a dispute. Emma has endured criticism from her mother all her life. In her youthful rush to get married and away from … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged confidence, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: So, you’re angry. Who’s in charge?
Anger, like many negative emotions, can ruin your whole day, eh? Depending on the severity, anger can leave a bad taste for weeks, months, or even a whole lifetime. It may be tempting to believe that we can’t control our … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged conflict, dissatisfaction, internal & external control
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