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Reality Check: There will always be an Irma
Are there people in your life who bug you? Treat you badly? Is this the story of your life? Sweet little Mary was picked on throughout her first year of school. Her nemesis was Irma, a big girl in a … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, internal & external control, making choices, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Aesop’s Snake
Do you believe there’s good in everyone? That even the most awful person is good at their core? Values and beliefs form part of what Dr. Wm. Glasser refers to as our “Quality World.” Our beliefs influence our perceptions, decisions … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged "should", examining wants, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Dances with Feelings
When it comes to feelings, do you lead? Follow? Or just try to get out of their way? You may remember, “If it feels good, do it.” That slogan came with a prevailing “wisdom” that it’s not only OK for … Continue reading
Posted in Doing, Thinking, Feeling, Physiology
Tagged happiness, internal & external control, total behaviour
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Reality Check: The Shamrock Plant
On a special occasion years ago, my Aunt Kathleen gifted me with a shamrock plant. For years, I’d admired hers. It flourished beautifully and was always in bloom. Now, I had my own! My plant, however, isn’t quite so consistent … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged choosing thoughts, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: Work Hard, Be Nice, Keep Commitments
Work Hard; Be Nice; Keep Commitments. Is that bossy? How about: Do you want a life filled with choice and opportunity? The Knowledge IS Power Program (KIPP) schools in the US serve students in educationally underserved communities. The goal: “college … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, internal & external control, work
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Reality Check: Can I Ruin Your Vacation?
Just to be clear, I don’t want to ruin your vacation! Nor am I asking, “May I ruin your vacation?” as in, “Will you give me permission to ruin your vacation?” No, my question is, “Do I have the ability … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged freedom, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Wisdom from Whys
The “5 Whys” is a technique that’s sometimes used in workplaces to analyze and solve problems. We use 5 Whys because it can help us figure out the “the root cause” of a problem. The root cause is like the … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged examining wants, internal & external control, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Little Red Hens
Do you visualize how things should be? For example, do you picture how kids should act? What your spouse should do? How friends should behave? Perhaps you have bigger pictures, such as how the county should progress, how the country … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
Fundamental to choice theory is its emphasis on our basic human need for love and belonging. One way we attempt to satisfy that need is through marriage. The idea of marriage is great. Two people publicly declare their love and … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships, internal & external control, unhappiness
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