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Reality Check: Holding on to Your Keys
Of the clever book titles I’ve found, “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them The Keys” by Dr. Mike Bechtle is among the catchiest. Bechtle clearly identifies that there are some things we can change and other … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, choosing thoughts, confidence, internal & external control, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Essence of Home
What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading
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Tagged dissatisfaction, examining wants, freedom, internal & external control, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World
Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, improving relationships, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: What would you choose?
A story told by Dr. Glasser in Choice Theory describes a mother-daughter relationship that had once been good but has now turned sour. Mom works all day. She comes home; her teenage daughter is lazing around watching TV. The kitchen … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged "should", conflict, improving relationships, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Choosing your Worry Boundaries
Can we choose to worry? Can we choose not to worry? If you identify yourself as a worrier, then the idea that you could choose not to worry probably sounds unrealistic. So let’s try this different, but related, question: Can … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, internal & external control, self-evaluation, worry
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Reality Check: To be Deliberate
It’s probably the influence of advertising, but the word “mindfulness” for me conjures up the image of a lovely woman in a yoga pose. Waterfalls, peace, and harmony abound. Being mindful—paying attention to the present moment—is a really helpful practice. … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Come by Chance
A tool that is often suggested to help us be happier and more satisfied is the practice of gratitude. You’ve seen it recommended here and probably elsewhere, too. It is, indeed, well and good to be grateful, count our blessings, … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, gratitude, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: A Chosen New Year
You’re only one person, but I know that you play many roles. You may be a mother or a father. You may be a partner in a relationship. Each of us is, or has been, someone’s child. You may identify … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, internal & external control, priorities
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Reality Check: Gratitude, Expectation, and Entitlement
“A whole dollar and seventy-six cents! What an insult! I should tell them to take their money and let them know right where to put it, too!” Whether you work for an hourly wage or a salary, receive a pension … Continue reading
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Tagged blame, gratitude, happiness, internal & external control
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