Tag Archives: making choices

Reality Check: The Battle for your Beliefs

Attempts to influence and persuade us are everywhere. Advertisements are essentially attempts to influence: Buy this product! Donate to this cause! Believe these beliefs! Personalized ads and information are particularly persuasive. For example, if I can make my company’s ad … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The paradoxical freedom of structure

If you’re like a lot of us, you don’t appreciate it when someone tells you what you should do. Some of us take that distaste for being “told” even further. We’ll keep our options open, even to the point where … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Value of Lobster

The lobster fishery has been a way of life for generations of families along the South Shore. It’s literally put food on lots of tables. As I don’t come from fishing folk, I wasn’t aware of how the perception of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Rather Card

Even when you know that what you’re doing isn’t working well for you, it can still be hard to make a change. How about a helpful tip? Here’s one: the “Rather Card.” How does it work? As it was originally … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Attachment to Things

Did you resolve to get more organized this year? You’re not alone. You can take control of your space, and the sales flyers that feature plastic totes and pretty boxes imply that they can help. But whether it’s elegant bamboo … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Should, Could, Would Like to

Dinah feels exhausted every morning, even before her day gets started. Why? She has an impossibly huge list of tasks, all conveniently stored in a jumble in her head. She thinks, “I should call that customer,” “I should pick up … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Let’s talk failure…

Just when you thought these columns were all about joy, positivity and success, here comes one on failure! I’m grateful to one of my readers for inspiring me to examine failure and how to define it. There’s a practical application … Continue reading

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Reality Check: There will always be an Irma

Are there people in your life who bug you? Treat you badly? Is this the story of your life? Sweet little Mary was picked on throughout her first year of school. Her nemesis was Irma, a big girl in a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: If you can’t get out of work….

Work; if you can’t get out of it, you may as well get in to it. Recently, I’ve focused on unhappiness at work. My suggestions come from the general principle that if you want change, you can either change your … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Improving the Workplace from Within

If you are unhappy at your workplace and would like to change that situation, there’s a variety of choices available to you. Mind you, the choices may not necessarily be attractive. But choices exist, nevertheless. One consistent suggestion is that … Continue reading

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