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Reality Check: Can your Belief Change your Reality?

Many of us feel stressed. Challenges, fears, upsets, and disappointments abound. People, institutions, politicians, employers and many others don’t behave as we want them to. A lot of those stressors are outside of our control. And even though we know … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing your Worry Boundaries

Can we choose to worry? Can we choose not to worry? If you identify yourself as a worrier, then the idea that you could choose not to worry probably sounds unrealistic. So let’s try this different, but related, question: Can … Continue reading

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Reality Check: You’re probably not alone…

“So much paperwork. And it’s all so confusing.” That’s Wanda’s description of her plight right now. She’s entering a stage of life where changes must be made. Many of those changes involve finances. Thus, they involve paperwork, meetings, and decisions. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: An Anxiety Alternative

If we choose to worry, there’s plenty to worry about. Thanks to the mixed blessing of access to information from all over the world, we can worry about things that we have absolutely no control over and that may never … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When you doubt yourself

While unjustified confidence can be perceived as arrogance, justifiable confidence is a positive quality. Self-doubt, for any of us, can result in a lack of enjoyment of our lives. An athlete who loses confidence can lose their enjoyment of the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Practice Makes Better

We get good at what we practice. Even if we never completely master a skill, the more we practice, the more we improve. Conversely, if we don’t practice, we won’t improve and may even lose what skill we had. In … Continue reading

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Reality Check: High Anxietying

Our language often suggests that we are the passive recipients of our feelings. When we say, “I’m down; I’m sad” or even, “I’m in love, I’m happy!” there’s an implication that feelings just happen. In choice theory language, however, instead … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Try a Different Stress Model?

Stress. Everybody’s had it. Yet some people seem to manage—or even thrive—in stressful environments, whereas others can barely cope. There are plenty of possible explanations for these differences: genetics, upbringing, experience, training, and so on. We don’t have control over … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Worry-Weed Patch

Even if you’ve never gardened, you’ve probably noticed that a patch of bare ground doesn’t stay bare for long. Nature doesn’t like empty space. What fills that space? Weeds, of course. Lambs-quarters take up residence in the garden; plantain plants … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Overcoming Shyness is an Employability Skill

In recent posts, I’ve suggested that the ability to get along with co-workers, bosses, and customers is a valuable employability skill. Unfortunately for some folks, shyness makes it difficult to get along. Have you ever perceived that the “sweet talkers” … Continue reading

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