Self-evaluation, in the choice theory perspective, is that important step when we look at what we do and make a judgment about it. The word “judgment” often carries a negative connotation; however, judgment is helpful when you use it to assess your own behaviour.
It’s when you self-evaluate that you decide, for yourself, whether your behaviour is working for you. Is what you are doing moving you closer to the life you want? Continue reading
Elise has the unfortunate habit of misplacing her keys. Over the years, she has been late for important meetings, she’s held up family outings, and she’s wasted countless hours searching.
Her key-losing behaviour even contributed to missing a chance for her dream job; she showed up late for her interview because she couldn’t find her car keys. It has become a family joke—if Elise is not where she’s supposed to be, then she’s probably looking for her keys.
Losing your keys may seem like a trivial behaviour to be concerned about. Continue reading
When discouragement hits, it can be hard to imagine that you have any choice at all about how you feel. The total behaviour aspect of choice theory states that taking action of some sort is the most direct approach to changing a feeling. However, it’s not always easy to figure out what action to take. Continue reading
No, this column isn’t about Snow White; it’s about fairness. Of course, Snow White’s beauty did offer her an unfair advantage over the wicked queen. And, the wicked queen had the unfair advantage of power. Fairness is complicated, isn’t it?
Unlike some concepts, people grasp the idea of fairness without elaborate teaching. Tiny children easily manage an indignant, “That’s not fair!” should they perceive that someone is getting better treatment than they are. Continue reading
I can’t, I won’t, I don’t want! There’s always something that we can’t do, won’t do, or don’t want. And, there are things that we can do, will do, and do want. Which is most helpful to focus on?
Elyssa has been concentrating on what she can’t have in her relationship with Henry. Continue reading
