Category Archives: Making a Change

Reality Check: Situational Confidence

Do you believe that having self-confidence is important, satisfying, and helpful? My next question: “Are you a self-confident person?” There are many competent, skilled, accomplished people who lack self-confidence, and they know it’s an unsatisfying state. You might think that … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Creating the Helpful Habit

Are you stressed? Is there too much to do, no time to do it? Do undone tasks scurry around in the back of your mind, popping up at inconvenient times? Many tasks are never fully done. Do you remember this … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Attitude in Action

What’s the most important attribute for success? Ask an employer, teacher, or coach, and it’s pretty likely that somewhere in the answer you’ll find reference to the need for “a good attitude.” In fact, entire libraries could be filled with … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Pattern Making

We’re all familiar with habits. We do the same thing over and over; a choice becomes so ingrained that it seems automatic.  For example, I wake up; I drink coffee. No thought involved! Rick has a habit of buying exercise … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Worry Stoppers

“It is within your power to feel better.” That’s according to Dr. Bob Wubbolding, in “A Set of Directions for Putting and Keeping Yourself Together.” How much power do you have over your feelings? In choice theory, we say that … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Behaviour of Worrying

Whether it’s a significant fear or just a twinge of uneasiness, most folks experience the state of “being worried” from time to time. A variety of actions and thoughts come along for the ride when our main behaviour is worrying. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Temper a Temper

Aren’t words fun? The phrase “to temper” means to calm, whereas a person who “has a temper” is angry. If you have a temper, do you have a choice? Or is your temper out of your control? Josie has a … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Possibilities and Potential

Lauren has a dream, and she’s talked about this dream for years. When she’s asked what she does, Lauren replies without hesitation: “My dream is to open a home for challenged youth.” People who know and love Lauren encourage her … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Can’t, Won’t, Don’t? or Can, Will, Do?

I can’t, I won’t, I don’t want! There’s always something that we can’t do, won’t do, or don’t want. And, there are things that we can do, will do, and do want. Which is most helpful to focus on? Elyssa … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Thinking of “Thank You”

Self-help programs often promote the benefits of gratitude. Especially during those times when you are feeling particularly ungrateful, thinking and saying “thank you” can be really helpful. Let’s say you wake up feeling grumpy. Sometimes it happens! There may be … Continue reading

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