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Category Archives: Perception & Reality
Reality Check: The Treasure Hunt
Humans have problems. As I’m interested in helping folks overcome problems, I look for information on problem-solving. In a recent article, “The Obstacles of Everyday Problem Solving,” author James J. Rooney connected problem-solving and treasure-hunting. How might treasure-hunting help with … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, frustration, perception
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Reality Check: The Big Sigh
Memorable sayings aren’t always elegant and this one, though a little crude, is also unforgettable: “Assume—it makes an ass of u and me.” Making an assumption doesn’t literally turn you or me into a body part. (I know because I’ve … Continue reading
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Reality Check: The Value of Perspective
Madison is afraid. As she understands it, polar bears are drowning, cities are flooding, our food is killing us, and artificially-intelligent appliances will become our masters. The world can be a frightening place, especially for a young person. Of course, … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, choosing influences, worry
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Reality Check: Here’s to a Satisfying Holiday
For some folks, the prospect of holidays and the expectations that come with them can evoke feelings that are closer to dread than joy. And if our perception is that others effortlessly produce perfect food, gifts, and parties while surrounded … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", examining wants, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: What does respect look like?
Communication is interesting. We come up with ideas—essentially pictures in our minds—that we want to communicate. Then we use words to share those ideas. We tend to assume that everybody understands words the same way. Take the word “respect.” My … Continue reading
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Reality Check: When Something Stinks
With delicate precision, the grandkids smeared stinky cheese into Grandpa’s moustache while he snoozed. Grandpa awakes, it stinks! No matter where he goes, everything stinks. The whole world stinks! It can be surprisingly hard to tell whether it’s the whole … Continue reading
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Reality Check: What Three Words?
“Why so glum, Jim?” “I just got a compliment. At least, I guess that’s what it was. I did a favour for Mary, and she told me how grateful she is to have me around, that I’m always so loyal … Continue reading
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Reality Check: A Filter For Your Thoughts
Reality. You would think we’d all agree on what it is, wouldn’t you? Yet, two people can be exposed to the same situation or read exactly the same words and come away with quite different perceptions. How does that happen? … Continue reading
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Reality Check: The Value of Taking the High Road
In this continuing series on helpful values that seldom make the news, this column’s value is “taking the high road.” Does that get the tune for The Bonnie Banks of Loch Lomond running through your mind? You might express this … Continue reading
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Reality Check: Esteem Essentials
Can you raise someone’s self-esteem? Perhaps more to the point, can you (or anyone) lower someone’s self-esteem? The choice theory view is that we can’t make anyone (other than ourselves) happy, sad, angry, or anything else; each of us does … Continue reading
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