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Reality Check: When Wants Collide
When our wants collide with the wants of others, conflict can occur. However, you don’t necessarily need two people for a conflict! How about when your wants collide? Jane wants many things. She wants time to spend with her children … Continue reading
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Tagged discouragement, making choices, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Value of Delayed Gratification
Would you stop drinking all sugary drinks for a year for $500? That’s the offer that one family made to their children. You could view that as bribery. Or, you could view it as an innovative teaching method. Regardless, one … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Comfort, Joy, and Food
There’s a reason why some foods are called “comfort food.” Like fuzzy socks or fleecy blankets, some foods evoke feelings of being safe, cared for, and satisfied. Whether your comfort food of choice is homemade bread, stew, or chicken pot … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, guilt, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Here’s to a Satisfying Holiday
For some folks, the prospect of holidays and the expectations that come with them can evoke feelings that are closer to dread than joy. And if our perception is that others effortlessly produce perfect food, gifts, and parties while surrounded … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged "should", examining wants, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Love is a Verb
How we use our words can shape our thoughts and attitudes. Love is many-splendored indeed, and we use the word “love” in many ways. Anna says, “I’m not in love with my husband anymore. We used to be in love, … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, improving relationships, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The People Business
Are you in the “people business”? Almost certainly, the answer is… yes! In their book, Have a Nice Conflict, Scudder, Patterson, and Mitchell assert that everyone is in the people business. There’s nary a line of work where people aren’t … Continue reading
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Tagged conflict, improving relationships, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Esteem Essentials
Can you raise someone’s self-esteem? Perhaps more to the point, can you (or anyone) lower someone’s self-esteem? The choice theory view is that we can’t make anyone (other than ourselves) happy, sad, angry, or anything else; each of us does … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", fairness, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Happiness Choice
The William Glasser organization just launched a website called Mental Health & Happiness at www.mentalhealthandhappiness.com Associating mental health with happiness may not make sense if your picture of happiness is giddy laughter, personal indulgence, or fantastic luck. If so, you … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Freedom
Tagged choosing actions, happiness, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Apologies, Demands, and Power
An apology is often an effective response when someone has been wronged. Yet, there are also unsatisfying apology scenarios where someone—the victim, the offender, or both—walk away feeling, well…unsatisfied. You know something is still not OK, even if you can’t … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", conflict, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Safety at Work
Last post, I suggested that one of the “wants” identified by the Laasers in their book, “The Seven Desires of Every Heart” applies to the workplace. That’s the desire each of us has to be heard and understood. Another of … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged anxiety, need satisfaction, worry
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