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Reality Check: Should, Could, Would Like to
Dinah feels exhausted every morning, even before her day gets started. Why? She has an impossibly huge list of tasks, all conveniently stored in a jumble in her head. She thinks, “I should call that customer,” “I should pick up … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged "should", basic needs, freedom, making choices
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Reality Check: Is It Just Too Much?
Self-evaluation is the process of examining what we are doing and determining whether we’re moving in the direction we want. It can be helpful in many situations. Take Bruce, who works long and hard at work and in life. He’s … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged "should", choosing actions, responsibility, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Meltdown
A thousand miles away, my usually sunny friend—she who chooses the most positive possible interpretation of everything—had a meltdown. It’s understandable. She’s been living with the reality of several family members diagnosed with cancers. Then, her mom took a tumble … Continue reading
Posted in How it is sometimes
Tagged "should", anxiety, need satisfaction, offering information, responsibility
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Reality Check: Aesop’s Snake
Do you believe there’s good in everyone? That even the most awful person is good at their core? Values and beliefs form part of what Dr. Wm. Glasser refers to as our “Quality World.” Our beliefs influence our perceptions, decisions … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged "should", examining wants, internal & external control
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Reality Check: The Battle of the Hummingbirds
If you have a hummingbird feeder, then you know the routine. A single hummingbird will sit on a perch and eat. But add another, and suddenly everybody is flitting around, hovering, staring, chasing, and squawking. More energy is spent bothering … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged "should", comparing with others, examining wants, fairness
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Reality Check: The Value of Support
Last post, I told a little story about Sally and her intent to invite a roommate to share her living space. Based on your knowledge of the situation, you anticipated that this arrangement wouldn’t work well. In other words, you … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: If I Know What’s Right for You…
Do you know what’s right for someone else? It’s easy to think that we know exactly what someone should do, think, or feel. And then, it’s easy to tell them! Dr. William Glasser associates the “I-know-what’s-right-for-you” perspective with misery. In … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: Time to Double Down?
Not so long ago, in a place not so far away, a government with the very best intentions wanted to encourage kids to eat in a healthy way. A commendable goal. The question: how might one do this? A program … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged "should", making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Scorekeeping Relationship
Last time, I made a case for keeping score in our lives. Keeping track of data about how we spend our time, what we do with our money, or even how much we eat can be helpful. It provides us … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged "should", comparing with others, fairness, improving relationships
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