Tag Archives: “should”

Reality Check: The Reality of Imperfection

Posted on February 2, 2019 by RealityCheck

There’s plenty in society, culture, politics, education and life in general that’s not perfect. I don’t believe that it’s ever been perfect. I highly doubt that it ever will be perfect in the future. Furthermore, my views of what constitutes … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When Fairness Holds Us Back

Posted on September 23, 2018 by RealityCheck

The mother-daughter conflict story told in Choice Theory by Dr. Glasser that I’ve been referring to has one more interesting dimension that some of us might find troubling. Briefly, the story goes like this: Mom works all day and is … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What would you choose?

Posted on September 17, 2018 by RealityCheck

A story told by Dr. Glasser in Choice Theory describes a mother-daughter relationship that had once been good but has now turned sour. Mom works all day. She comes home; her teenage daughter is lazing around watching TV. The kitchen … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Can you do this?

Posted on September 2, 2018 by RealityCheck

Do you consider yourself highly motivated? Does your motivation come naturally to you, or do you have to work at it? For some of us, motivation seems to require an occasional kick in the pants, so to speak, to keep … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Guilt, Conscience, and Manipulation

Posted on August 20, 2018 by RealityCheck

Many people are guided by conscience when they choose their actions. Conscience can motivate us to reach out and offer support, which can be relationship building and benefit both the giver and the receiver. Support can take many forms: emotional, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Lost for Words?

Posted on June 24, 2018 by RealityCheck

Do you know the “scolded puppy” feeling? If not, picture this: You’re in a conversation, and you perceive that you’re being criticized and misunderstood. Your opponent is using clever words and making excellent points. You have no response. So you … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choices in Caring

Posted on April 8, 2018 by RealityCheck

Caring, loving, supporting, and encouraging are wonderful, positive behaviours. When we genuinely care for each other, we can improve our relationships and satisfy our need for love and belonging. As we can only control ourselves, it’s helpful to offer our … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Pictures of Celebration

Posted on December 17, 2017 by RealityCheck

It’s the time of year when we are surrounded by pictures of celebration and joy. There are images of beaming families who obviously love each other and probably never disagree. They sit at tables overflowing with perfectly cooked, delicious food, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Should, Could, Would Like to

Posted on December 3, 2017 by RealityCheck

Dinah feels exhausted every morning, even before her day gets started. Why? She has an impossibly huge list of tasks, all conveniently stored in a jumble in her head. She thinks, “I should call that customer,” “I should pick up … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Is It Just Too Much?

Posted on May 28, 2017 by RealityCheck

Self-evaluation is the process of examining what we are doing and determining whether we’re moving in the direction we want. It can be helpful in many situations. Take Bruce, who works long and hard at work and in life. He’s … Continue reading →

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