Tag Archives: “should”

Reality Check: The Critical Eye

Posted on April 19, 2020 by RealityCheck

Many people are now spending more time at home. While that may be with people you love and care about, it may also be in close quarters and for some, it must be quite a change. There’s an interesting difference … Continue reading →

Posted in Relationships | Tagged "should", conflict, criticism, gratitude | Comments Off

Reality Check: When we don’t like our advice

Posted on March 7, 2020 by RealityCheck

Advice is plentiful, whether we look for it or not. What to eat, where to live, how to act; you can find someone, somewhere, ready to offer their opinion. How do you respond to advice that you don’t like? When … Continue reading →

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged "should", choosing influences, criticism, offering information | Comments Off

Reality Check: The Gift of a Deadline

Posted on February 8, 2020 by RealityCheck

Many of us have had to work to deadlines, even if we don’t always think of them as deadlines. Whether it’s called a due date at school, a vacation date at work, or even a gathering of friends for a … Continue reading →

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged "should", anxiety, motivation, perception, self-evaluation | Comments Off

Reality Check: Choosing Your Advisors

Posted on December 22, 2019 by RealityCheck

Whether we ask for it or not, we are often on the receiving end of advice. For example, when your mother-in-law tells you that you should have put your snow tires on two weeks ago, you might not have identified … Continue reading →

Posted in Personal Freedom | Tagged "should", choosing influences, comparing with others, criticism, encouragement, helpful, making choices | Comments Off

Reality Check: Different wants for different folks

Posted on September 14, 2019 by RealityCheck

“I don’t know why you think you need all that stuff.” From his mom’s perspective, James is continuously on kijiji, eBay and buy & sell groups, looking for a deal. He’s accumulated tools, parts, gadgets of all sorts. “Why?” she … Continue reading →

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged "should", basic needs, criticism, examining wants | Comments Off

Reality Check: An Attitude About Forgetting

Posted on June 29, 2019 by RealityCheck

Last post, I used a personal example to discuss the challenge of forgetfulness. I had devoted considerable time learning how to use a piece of software. But by the time I needed to use that knowledge, it seemed that all … Continue reading →

Posted in Learning | Tagged "should", choosing actions, choosing thoughts, frustration, reality | Comments Off

Reality Check: Strategies for Choice

Posted on May 25, 2019 by RealityCheck

Previously, I discussed a theory popularized by Barry Schwartz in, “The Paradox of Choice” that there are two choice-making approaches. Some people are maximizers; intent on making the absolute best choices they possibly can. Others are satisficers, who stop looking … Continue reading →

Posted in Control and Choice | Tagged "should", examining wants, making choices, worry | Comments Off

Reality Check: What you see is what you get

Posted on April 13, 2019 by RealityCheck

WYSIWYG, pronounced “whizzywig,” means, “What you see is what you get.” I know the phrase from the olden days of computers—back when it was a big deal to have the display on the screen actually reflect what was printed. Computer … Continue reading →

Posted in Choosing Behaviour | Tagged "should", criticism, examining wants, improving relationships | Comments Off

Reality Check: The Critic

Posted on March 3, 2019 by RealityCheck

Do you detect that there’s a lot of criticism in your life? If so, how does it feel to be criticized? Are you grateful to have the errors of your ways pointed out to you? Or not so much? When … Continue reading →

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged "should", choosing influences, confidence, criticism | Comments Off

Reality Check: The Happiness Benefit

Posted on February 17, 2019 by RealityCheck

Does happiness benefit happy people? Or is it the benefits that happy people have that cause their happiness? It’s the happiness version of the chicken and egg question; which comes first: the happiness or the benefits? For example, a happy … Continue reading →

Posted in Choosing Perspective | Tagged "should", gratitude, happiness, perception | Comments Off