Tag Archives: “should”

Reality Check: The Bare Essentials

Posted on August 1, 2021 by RealityCheck

What is essential for you? Think for a moment. What pops up? Perhaps people come to your mind—friends, family, people we rely on for help and companionship, who keep our spirits up and make our lives worth living. What else … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Getting in the Mood

Posted on July 18, 2021 by RealityCheck

Are we prisoners of our moods? Some days we feel great from the moment we wake up; others not so much. Why? We could blame the weather. Maybe it’s that incomprehensible jumble of hormones inside our bodies. Or it could … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Defining the Good

Posted on July 12, 2021 by RealityCheck

“There is good in everyone.” I expect that you’ve heard this declared; perhaps you’ve even said it yourself. Granted, sometimes it’s coupled with a caution that we may have to dig pretty deep to find good in some people. Perhaps … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Important! Read This Immediately!

Posted on June 13, 2021 by RealityCheck

The envelope looked like something from the government. It was that familiar brown kraft paper that we associate with official mailings. It even had a maple leaf logo printed on it that looked like a flag. The printing on the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Unexpected Kindness

Posted on May 16, 2021 by RealityCheck

Asparagus season reminds me of an incident that’s been a helpful example for me over the years. One spring long ago, when the emerging asparagus was at its peak, I had invited some acquaintances for dinner. Among my guests was … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: How We Use Our Tools

Posted on February 21, 2021 by RealityCheck

Ongoing learning is a wonderful luxury. We can learn so much if we have the time and inclination to do so. Information is easily available and often free, especially if you don’t care about getting credit for your learning. For … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Make a Difference

Posted on January 10, 2021 by RealityCheck

We’re in to a New Year! But before we leave Christmas 2020 behind, let’s remember the classic Christmas movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life.” It’s an oldie, yet the message is still worthwhile. George Bailey gets to see the difference he … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What’s in a Bribe?

Posted on December 13, 2020 by RealityCheck

When you think of bribery (if you ever do) what comes to mind? Scenes of brown paper bags stuffed with cash, surreptitiously dropped into the hands of corrupt, powerful people? In his book, “Take Charge of Your Life,” Dr. Glasser … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Tension Between Safety and Freedom

Posted on December 6, 2020 by RealityCheck

People do the strangest things, don’t they? Sometimes you shake your head in disbelief. Yet for any of us, I suspect that there are times when an observer would think our own actions quite irrational. An observer can only see … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Perfection Trap

Posted on November 15, 2020 by RealityCheck

How do you feel about this statement: “If I can’t do something perfectly, I may as well not do it at all”? While different people have different attitudes toward perfection, there are some situations where perfect accomplishment is what we … Continue reading →

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