Tag Archives: “should”

Reality Check: The Sharp Edge

Posted on June 12, 2022 by RealityCheck

Criticism is a double-edged sword, and that sword can have one very sharp edge. I say it’s “double-edged,” because some criticism may be intended to be helpful (referred to as “constructive criticism.”) More likely, however, criticism results in hurt rather … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Present Day

Posted on May 1, 2022 by RealityCheck

After an absence, we may pick up the strands of connection by asking, “How are you doing?” When I reconnected with Becca, who is well-versed in Dr. Glasser’s Choice Theory, I was pretty sure of an interesting answer. I was … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Joy and the Sadness of Special Events

Posted on March 27, 2022 by RealityCheck

It’s been customary to mark special occurrences in our lives with events. We celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, graduations and other happy occasions. We also mark sad, difficult events with funerals and memorials. So much has changed in just a few … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Respect in Times of Turmoil

Posted on March 20, 2022 by RealityCheck

From your perspective, is the world in a state of turmoil? And if you do believe that these are unusually troubled times, does that belief affect how you live your life? The world can seem very small. Communications that used … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Adapting, Changing, and Getting Along

Posted on March 14, 2022 by RealityCheck

Change. Does it seem to you that we’ve been experiencing constant change? Both the viral disease and responses to the threat of that disease have brought changes that affect millions of people. Into this ever-changing environment now comes what? More … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Do You Feel Appreciated?

Posted on November 28, 2021 by RealityCheck

Knowing that we are genuinely appreciated is satisfying. From a choice theory perspective, we might say that appreciation satisfies our need for power, recognition, esteem. Regardless of how we analyze it, appreciation feels good. I sincerely hope that you have … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Urgency and Importance

Posted on November 21, 2021 by RealityCheck

As we approach the end of a second unusual year, people are making plans for the holidays. So much is so different now. There are decisions to make about gatherings, purchases, and traditions. How do you decide what to do? … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To-Dos and Purpose

Posted on October 10, 2021 by RealityCheck

How’s your to-do list? Does it motivate you by giving you purpose and direction? Or is it more like a collection of chores—a hamster wheel that demands lots of effort to keep going round and round but doesn’t seem to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: You and Me Against the Problem

Posted on October 4, 2021 by RealityCheck

Just when everything seemed to be going well, Amy got a wakeup call. It was a “heart incident,” and it demanded that she turn her attention toward aspects of her life that she had neglected. You probably know the drill. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Mixed Messages

Posted on September 5, 2021 by RealityCheck

We have lots of ways to communicate. We use words, of course, both written and spoken. But we also communicate through facial expressions, tone, and actions. If you’re not sure how we communicate using actions, think about the message sent … Continue reading →

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