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Reality Check: Persistent or Stubborn?

Last time, I wrote about constancy of purpose and the importance of having a long-term view to guide your decisions. Why is constancy of purpose important? Because few big goals are achieved quickly and easily. If you want to achieve … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Quality for Life

My introduction to Dr. Glasser’s work was accidental. Wherever there are miserable people, Dr. Glasser encouraged learning and using choice theory. He counseled and wrote about relationships, marriage, families, addictions, health, and schools. There’s also plenty of misery in workplaces. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Any Given Day

For many folks, the New Year triggers self-evaluation. We look back at what went well (or badly) and look forward—perhaps with resolutions—to the year ahead. What will I do differently? New Year’s resolutions can be effective, but more often than … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Presents and Presence

How have you spent your December? Indeed, “spent” may be the appropriate word, as folks have been rushing around the malls, the stores, and on-line, shopping for those perfect gifts. As this traditional season of giving comes to a close, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Comparison in Action

Last time, I suggested that it can be helpful to compare oneself to oneself. This comparison can help you see more clearly whether you are, in fact, making progress toward your goals. The example I had chosen was that of … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Comparison that Works

If you’ve been reading Reality Check for a while, you know that I suggest not comparing yourself to others. Why? It’s futile, as you can’t control how others are doing. Further, your comparison may lead you to believe that you … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Try a Different Stress Model?

Stress. Everybody’s had it. Yet some people seem to manage—or even thrive—in stressful environments, whereas others can barely cope. There are plenty of possible explanations for these differences: genetics, upbringing, experience, training, and so on. We don’t have control over … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Impulse to Vent

Have you ever felt that frustration has control of you? That you can’t hold back; you have to let it out somehow? If so, how well has that “letting out” worked for you? Venting can feel really good at the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When Your Body Speaks Out

Do you listen to your body? If you’ve ever had an aching back from lifting too much, a foggy brain from sleeping too little, or an upset stomach from eating unwisely, you know there are times when the body can’t … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Ups and Downs of Perception

Do you make your decisions and choose your actions based on facts and evidence? While it’s a worthwhile aspiration, it is easier said than done because along with those objective facts, we also have our perceptions. What we perceive about … Continue reading →

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