Category Archives: Control and Choice

Reality Check: When there’s no perfect option

Posted on April 9, 2017 by RealityCheck

Have you ever needed to make a decision, only to find that there isn’t a single perfect option among the possibilities? That’s the usual case, isn’t it? If there were a perfect option, we’d go right ahead and choose that. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Happiness of Eliminating Options

Posted on March 5, 2017 by RealityCheck

Keeping our options open is often perceived as positive. “What are you doing for vacation?” “I’m keeping my options open.” Or, “Have you decided who you will marry?” “No, I’m keeping my options open.” There’s a delightful sense of freedom … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choices of Conversation

Posted on December 23, 2016 by RealityCheck

It’s that time of year when people get together. Perhaps you’ll attend an office party to socialize with your fellow workers. Perhaps you’ll catch up with seldom-seen relatives. Maybe you’ll be partying with friends. In any case, it’s possible you’ll … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Time Trap

Posted on November 6, 2016 by RealityCheck

There exists a near-universal excuse to get out of most any activity. It goes like this: “Oh, I’m sorry. I don’t have enough time to do that.” Have you ever used this excuse? I have. So many people feel time-stressed … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: You’re a Character!

Posted on September 12, 2016 by RealityCheck

When you hear someone say, “He (or she) is a character!” the implication is usually that the person is kind of…quirky. On the other hand, when someone shows a lot of character, the implication is that they’ve demonstrated strength in … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Can I Ruin Your Vacation?

Posted on July 31, 2016 by RealityCheck

Just to be clear, I don’t want to ruin your vacation! Nor am I asking, “May I ruin your vacation?” as in, “Will you give me permission to ruin your vacation?” No, my question is, “Do I have the ability … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Little Red Hens

Posted on May 29, 2016 by RealityCheck

Do you visualize how things should be? For example, do you picture how kids should act? What your spouse should do? How friends should behave? Perhaps you have bigger pictures, such as how the county should progress, how the country … Continue reading →

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