Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: Helpful Habits

Posted on June 16, 2019 by RealityCheck

What are your habits? What actions have you practiced so much that they are now a regular, perhaps even a mindless, part of life? Some habits are deliberate; we’ve consciously initiated them. For example, perhaps you practice the beneficial habit … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What makes a difference?

Posted on March 24, 2019 by RealityCheck

Do you want to make a difference? When asked about their purpose or goals in life, many will answer with some variation of, “I want to make a difference and do something that matters.” Often, that wish is connected to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choices in Conflict

Posted on February 9, 2019 by RealityCheck

What does it mean to win a conflict? Does it mean that you prevailed on the issue, i.e. got your way? Does it mean that you are recognized by others as the clear victor while your opponent is humiliated? Perhaps … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Grow Accountability

Posted on January 26, 2019 by RealityCheck

I have many good intentions. Perhaps you do, too! Those intentions include plans for what I will do for others as well as what I need or want to do for myself. They range from lofty to mundane; from developing … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Structure for a Satisfying Life

Posted on January 12, 2019 by RealityCheck

The upside of dissatisfaction is that it can be a useful motivator to drive improvement. That’s grasping at straws to find a positive spin, isn’t it? Seriously though, if we had no dissatisfaction, why would we ever improve? One area … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Happiness from your Money

Posted on December 3, 2018 by RealityCheck

There are many more important things than money: health, family, relationships, personal growth, just to name a few. Money isn’t even mentioned in the choice theory list of five basic needs: security/survival, love/belonging, power, freedom, and fun. However, while money … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What we choose to want

Posted on October 28, 2018 by RealityCheck

We do a lot of comparing, don’t we? In Choice Theory, Dr. Glasser even talks about a “comparing place” in our brains. He uses the image of a balance scale; on one side sits what we want and on the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Loose Ends and Everyday Anxiety

Posted on July 1, 2018 by RealityCheck

Curious things can happen if we detach ourselves from technology for a while. I call that time “vacation,” an opportunity to notice things I might not pay attention to otherwise. Knowing I’ll have no electronics, internet, or email to entertain … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Onward!

Posted on May 27, 2018 by RealityCheck

Are you familiar with the joy that comes from knowing that you are making progress? I hope so. Because the satisfaction that comes with knowing that you are headed in the right direction is a powerful, motivating feeling. Life can … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Influencers, Helpers, and Heroes

Posted on March 18, 2018 by RealityCheck

We may never know the effect of extending a small kindness. In fact, we could perform a genuinely heroic act and never learn the result. We may not even know whether anyone noticed. Being helpful and kind is more satisfying … Continue reading →

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