Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: Going My Way?

Things don’t always go my way. It’s possible that things don’t always go your way, either. Given that’s the reality, how do we deal with it? What responses are effective when we are faced with the inevitable disappointments, perceived unfairnesses, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: We can do it!

What does encouragement look like? Think way back and picture the poster of Rosie the Riveter. That’s one picture of encouragement—Rosie’s determined face under the slogan, “We can do it!” with her sleeves rolled up and her muscles flexed. The … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To be Deliberate

It’s probably the influence of advertising, but the word “mindfulness” for me conjures up the image of a lovely woman in a yoga pose. Waterfalls, peace, and harmony abound. Being mindful—paying attention to the present moment—is a really helpful practice. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Chosen New Year

You’re only one person, but I know that you play many roles. You may be a mother or a father. You may be a partner in a relationship. Each of us is, or has been, someone’s child. You may identify … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What does encouragement look like?

A friend for whom I have very high regard had a scheduling conflict. It looked like she’d be unable to attend a meeting I’d organized. I was disappointed. Then, she went out of her way to rearrange her schedule so … Continue reading

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Reality Check: An Anxiety Alternative

If we choose to worry, there’s plenty to worry about. Thanks to the mixed blessing of access to information from all over the world, we can worry about things that we have absolutely no control over and that may never … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Blue Day Defenses

Ever had a blue day? No? You can skip this column, then. However, if “blue day” is sadly recognizable for you, read on. Our actions affect our feelings, so if you are feeling down and you don’t like that feeling, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: If you can’t get out of work….

Work; if you can’t get out of it, you may as well get in to it. Recently, I’ve focused on unhappiness at work. My suggestions come from the general principle that if you want change, you can either change your … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Improving the Workplace from Within

If you are unhappy at your workplace and would like to change that situation, there’s a variety of choices available to you. Mind you, the choices may not necessarily be attractive. But choices exist, nevertheless. One consistent suggestion is that … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Random Acts at Home

Random acts of kindness for strangers have been popular for years now. When we do something kind, the likely result is that we feel good and satisfied. We get to perceive ourselves as being a kind and caring person, and … Continue reading

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