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Reality Check: Bad News Bearers

Posted on June 18, 2017 by RealityCheck

“I know you don’t want to hear this but I have to tell you anyway.” Do you ever say (or think) that? You believe that you need to inform somebody of something unpleasant, and they’re not going to like it. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Meltdown

Posted on May 14, 2017 by RealityCheck

A thousand miles away, my usually sunny friend—she who chooses the most positive possible interpretation of everything—had a meltdown. It’s understandable. She’s been living with the reality of several family members diagnosed with cancers. Then, her mom took a tumble … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Happiness and Self-Responsibility

Posted on March 26, 2017 by RealityCheck

Self-responsibility. In some circles, it’s practically a dirty word. It seems that a cold and frightening picture comes to mind for some folks when they hear that there’s a move afoot to promote self-reliance as a useful skill. It’s as … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choices of Conversation

Posted on December 23, 2016 by RealityCheck

It’s that time of year when people get together. Perhaps you’ll attend an office party to socialize with your fellow workers. Perhaps you’ll catch up with seldom-seen relatives. Maybe you’ll be partying with friends. In any case, it’s possible you’ll … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Fear of Being Hurtful

Posted on December 11, 2016 by RealityCheck

Conflict is a human reality. Whenever two or more people need to interact, there’s an opportunity for conflict. Actually, I’ll take that back. Conflict doesn’t always require two people; there are times when I don’t even agree with myself! So … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Routes to Self-Esteem

Posted on October 9, 2016 by RealityCheck

Is self-esteem a double-edged sword? Too little self-esteem? You can find yourself living an unsatisfying life with little confidence. You may treat yourself as if you have low value or worth. Others may take your behaviour as a cue, and … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Change–Like it or Not? Part 1

Posted on July 3, 2016 by RealityCheck

If you’re a person or group promoting a change that’s being met with opposition, it can be comforting to blame the opposition on the assertion “people don’t like change.” When you believe that you are facing resistance because other people … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: OPAAT

Posted on May 15, 2016 by RealityCheck

One Person At A Time: OPAAT. Haven’t seen that acronym before? No surprise; I made it up—with a purpose! It reminds me of what I am able to do. News, opinions, and commentaries often point out systemic problems—big wrongs (or … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: A Step in the “Take Charge” Direction

Posted on May 8, 2016 by RealityCheck

The word “crisis” conveys a sense of urgency and it’s sometimes associated with the mental health system, accompanied by commentary that there aren’t enough resources and things are getting worse. Perhaps that’s true; perhaps it’s not. Allocation of resources will … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Terminal Choice

Posted on March 20, 2016 by RealityCheck

Some choices have longer-lasting consequences than others. The choice of a career, schooling, or home has consequences. The choice of a spouse can have life-changing consequences. Even choices that may seem trivial at the time, such as whether to choose … Continue reading →

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