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Reality Check: The Paths We Select Through Our Choices
One of the benefits of writing is that people sometimes tell me their stories. I appreciate getting them, especially stories about choices. Recently, a young woman I’ll call Rebecca emailed me. We are acquainted, so the contact wasn’t completely unexpected. … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged choosing actions, choosing influences, confidence, examining wants, motivation
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Reality Check: The Most Basic Need of All
In recent columns, I’ve explored four of the five basic needs that Dr. Glasser suggested are common to all of us. Among those needs is the need for love and belonging. We need to know that we are not alone … Continue reading
Posted in Needs
Tagged basic needs, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: When We Lose Power
Dr. Wm. Glasser included power in his list of five basic human needs. As the word “power” can be interpreted in different ways, first let’s consider what power might mean here. I don’t know how you spend your vacation, but … Continue reading
Posted in Power
Tagged basic needs, conflict, motivation, power
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Reality Check: For the Fun of It
Are you serious about having fun? Or do you consider fun to be frivolous? Do you treat fun like dessert, saving it for after all the serious business has been handled? Then, if there’s time, maybe you’ll have the opportunity … Continue reading
Posted in Needs
Tagged basic needs, fun, learning, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Need to be Free
Here in the “true north strong and free,” you might think that everybody understands freedom. According to Dr. Glasser’s choice theory, we all have some level of the need for freedom. We may all have the need, but there are … Continue reading
Posted in Freedom...
Tagged basic needs, examining wants, freedom, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Belonging Problem
The Choice Theory of Dr. Wm. Glasser suggests that we have five basic needs that motivate us to act. We may choose effective actions that create a satisfying life or we may choose ineffective actions that are counter-productive, even self-destructive. … Continue reading
Posted in Love & Belonging
Tagged basic needs, examining wants, happiness, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Our Most Basic Needs
Are there more incidents of unhappiness now than ever before? The pandemic and the changes that accompanied it can certainly give that impression. There are plenty of stories. Some—about celebrities or strangers—appear in the media. But you may also be … Continue reading
Posted in Needs
Tagged basic needs, examining wants, happiness, hope, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Negotiating Differences in a Relationship
The seventh and final caring habit in Dr. Glasser’s list of caring habits is “always negotiating disagreements,” which I refer to as negotiating differences. It might seem odd to think of negotiations when we’re talking about personal relationships. Negotiating sounds … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, improving relationships, negotiation
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