Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: Love, Clarified and Committed

Posted on August 26, 2018 by RealityCheck

Recently I was gifted with a book entitled, “What is this thing called Love?” Written by Dr. Glasser and his wife Carleen, the book has a clear purpose. It’s for women who have been told, “I love you,” but who … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Guilt, Conscience, and Manipulation

Posted on August 20, 2018 by RealityCheck

Many people are guided by conscience when they choose their actions. Conscience can motivate us to reach out and offer support, which can be relationship building and benefit both the giver and the receiver. Support can take many forms: emotional, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Indecision, Imperfection, and Kale

Posted on August 13, 2018 by RealityCheck

My plan this year was to plant a nice bed of kale. I envisioned a continuous supply of fresh kale for lovely, nutritious salads. Buying the kale seeds was easy. But I couldn’t decide where to plant them. It was … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Your Discouragement Antidote Kit

Posted on August 5, 2018 by RealityCheck

Does discouragement have a colour? If so, is it grey? How about discouraging weather? Rain, perhaps? When discouraged, does it seem like there’s a rainy, grey, discouraged filter over everything? For example, let’s say we feel happy and in control. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Stories of our Scars

Posted on July 30, 2018 by RealityCheck

If you’ve spent much time at all on this earth, you probably have a few scars to show for it. Some people view their scars as embarrassing. They agonize over them, and buy not-so-magical potions in efforts to get rid … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Our Own Reflections

Posted on July 22, 2018 by RealityCheck

After he’d spent half an hour digging in the lawn and dining on bugs and worms, the young raccoon came prancing up to the patio door. Whoa! What was that? He stopped short; backed away. Tilted his head. Backed up … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Would you call your money names?

Posted on July 15, 2018 by RealityCheck

Do you make your decisions based on solid information, i.e. the facts? I’d like to think that I do, but honestly, I know that’s not always the case. My perspective on whatever it is that I’m trying to decide has … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Relaxation and Everyday Anxiety

Posted on July 8, 2018 by RealityCheck

Last time, I mentioned that Dr. Martin Seligman has a couple of suggestions to lower everyday anxiety levels. One is progressive relaxation, also known as progressive muscle relaxation. This technique is hardly new; apparently first described nearly a hundred years … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Loose Ends and Everyday Anxiety

Posted on July 1, 2018 by RealityCheck

Curious things can happen if we detach ourselves from technology for a while. I call that time “vacation,” an opportunity to notice things I might not pay attention to otherwise. Knowing I’ll have no electronics, internet, or email to entertain … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Lost for Words?

Posted on June 24, 2018 by RealityCheck

Do you know the “scolded puppy” feeling? If not, picture this: You’re in a conversation, and you perceive that you’re being criticized and misunderstood. Your opponent is using clever words and making excellent points. You have no response. So you … Continue reading →

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