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Reality Check: Relationships and the Power Need
Last time, I suggested that a marriage where both people have a high need for power and low need for love and belonging may present challenges. However, that doesn’t mean that such a couple is doomed to a life of … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, examining wants, improving relationships, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: Building a Happier Marriage
Fundamental to choice theory is its emphasis on our basic human need for love and belonging. One way we attempt to satisfy that need is through marriage. The idea of marriage is great. Two people publicly declare their love and … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships, internal & external control, unhappiness
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Reality Check: Any Given Day
For many folks, the New Year triggers self-evaluation. We look back at what went well (or badly) and look forward—perhaps with resolutions—to the year ahead. What will I do differently? New Year’s resolutions can be effective, but more often than … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged blame, choosing thoughts, gratitude
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Reality Check: The Give and Take of Communication
There are so many communication pitfalls that it’s amazing that we can communicate at all! It’s not that we can’t make ourselves heard, rather, it’s the understanding /being understood part that’s so problematic. Rebecca has a hard time communicating with … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged "should", blame, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: Perspectives on Apologies
Have you ever said or done something thoughtless that ended up hurting somebody you care deeply about? If so, join the club! Whether it was a massive error or a minor blunder, we’re human and are known to make mistakes. … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged blame, choosing actions, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The computer made me do it…
Can a computer “make” you mad? If you’ve ever sat in front of one when things aren’t going well, you understand the question! Whatever the problem: the printer won’t print, the email won’t email, or google declines to google, you’re … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Freedom
Tagged blame, choosing actions, internal & external control
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Reality Check: Perception and Schooling
Perceptions we form about ourselves during school days can influence us long after what we’ve learned at school is a dusty memory. Brandon has the perception that he can’t do math. Where did he get that? Perhaps his parents told … Continue reading
Posted in Learning
Tagged blame, discouragement, perception
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Reality Check: They “should” know…
Alice is fuming, but you’d never know it. She’s choosing to keep her frustrations hidden, and having chosen this “internal fuming” behaviour throughout her life, she’s mastered the skill. No one would know. We choose certain behaviours because they seem … Continue reading
Posted in How it is sometimes
Tagged "should", blame, dissatisfaction, offering information
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Wherever you go, there you are
We all need others to some degree. In reality therapy, that’s referred to as the need for love and belonging. Our lives are more satisfying when we can spend time with people we care about. However, there are benefits to … Continue reading
Posted in How it is sometimes
Tagged blame, internal & external control, making choices
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