Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: What does respect look like?

Posted on August 24, 2014 by RealityCheck

Communication is interesting. We come up with ideas—essentially pictures in our minds—that we want to communicate. Then we use words to share those ideas. We tend to assume that everybody understands words the same way. Take the word “respect.” My … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: More Choice Language

Posted on July 27, 2014 by RealityCheck

The language we use can both reflect and shape our attitudes. While “choice language” usually refers to something a little spicier, in this column, choice language refers to words and phrases that reflect our choices and our areas of control. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Love is a Verb

Posted on July 13, 2014 by RealityCheck

How we use our words can shape our thoughts and attitudes. Love is many-splendored indeed, and we use the word “love” in many ways. Anna says, “I’m not in love with my husband anymore. We used to be in love, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Entertaining Options

Posted on June 8, 2014 by RealityCheck

Are there actions in your life that you do mindlessly? For example, when you sit down to watch TV, do you choose the program? Or do you sit in front of whatever happens to be on, perhaps complaining (verbally or … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Strings Attached

Posted on May 4, 2014 by RealityCheck

The book, Choice Theory, by Dr. William Glasser is subtitled, “A New Psychology of Personal Freedom.” Glasser points out that the world is full of folks trying to control each other. These controlling behaviours cause plenty of misery—certainly for the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Situational Confidence

Posted on April 20, 2014 by RealityCheck

Do you believe that having self-confidence is important, satisfying, and helpful? My next question: “Are you a self-confident person?” There are many competent, skilled, accomplished people who lack self-confidence, and they know it’s an unsatisfying state. You might think that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Creating the Helpful Habit

Posted on February 16, 2014 by RealityCheck

Are you stressed? Is there too much to do, no time to do it? Do undone tasks scurry around in the back of your mind, popping up at inconvenient times? Many tasks are never fully done. Do you remember this … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Value of Reducing Waste

Posted on January 20, 2014 by RealityCheck

Last column, I suggested that being aware of your values can help you make choices that lead you toward the life that you want. We looked at the value of persistence; now let’s look at the value of “reducing waste.” … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: New Year’s Values

Posted on January 12, 2014 by RealityCheck

It’s the traditional season to make promises to ourselves: how we’ll change our lives, what we will achieve, what disciplines we will force on ourselves… While each day is as valuable as another, taking stock of life at New Year’s … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Fume or Fun?

Posted on December 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

Some situations seem to call for obvious reactions. However, even when we think there’s only one logical response, there are often many options available for our choosing. How can we figure out which choice is most effective? Doris’s husband, Bob, … Continue reading →

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