Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: Your own influence

In my last column, I discussed the influence of Dr. William Glasser. His books and the training that’s offered in choice theory and reality therapy has an impact on folks all over the world. However, it’s not only world-renowned authors, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Perspectives on Apologies

Have you ever said or done something thoughtless that ended up hurting somebody you care deeply about? If so, join the club! Whether it was a massive error or a minor blunder, we’re human and are known to make mistakes. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Before Putting Mouth in Gear…

A long time ago, in a workplace far away, there was a poster taped above my workbench. It read, “Engage brain before putting mouth in gear.” I choose to believe that the poster wasn’t put there specifically for me, by … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Jimmy meets Mrs. Crabapple

Ever since he was little, Jimmy wanted to be a pilot. Now, he’s finally ready for that first step on the road to realizing his dream. It’s time to go to ground school. Jimmy’s never been academically inclined. High school … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Pattern Making

We’re all familiar with habits. We do the same thing over and over; a choice becomes so ingrained that it seems automatic.  For example, I wake up; I drink coffee. No thought involved! Rick has a habit of buying exercise … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The computer made me do it…

Can a computer “make” you mad? If you’ve ever sat in front of one when things aren’t going well, you understand the question! Whatever the problem: the printer won’t print, the email won’t email, or google declines to google, you’re … Continue reading

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Reality Check: One Small Kind Act

Reality Therapy emphasizes our need for relationships. That’s not radical; it makes sense that being able to get along with others generally leads to a more satisfying life. So what if you need to deal with someone who dislikes you? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Hoped-for results

Many of us like to think that we base our important decisions on facts and logic. Sometimes, however, our “hoped-for” results crowd out our logical assessments. Let’s look at Molly and Bill, whose life together includes a home and small … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Shaking Off External Control

Last column, I described a mother-daughter conflict where mom, Sandy, tried to compel her daughter Chloe to study in a specific way. Sandy is convinced that she knows what’s best for Chloe. Now, let’s look at the situation from Chloe’s … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Optimism or Pessimism: Can you choose?

If pessimism has a hold on you, the idea that you can choose optimism instead won’t sound very realistic. What is optimism, anyway? Reality therapy says that behaviour has four aspects: thinking, feeling, action, and physiological effects. You can “feel … Continue reading

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