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Reality Check: Choosing Your Lens

When we try on different glasses, it’s clear that the lens we use makes a huge difference in what we see. Some lenses make everything clearer; others muddy and distort. In these troubled times, some are looking through an exclusively … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Benefit of Mistakes

“Oops! I made a mistake.” Is there anyone out there who genuinely believes that they’ve never made a mistake? If that’s you, then I guess you can stop reading now. This column is for the rest of us—the mere mortals. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Morning Outlook

How’s your morning outlook? Sunny and bright? Cold and dreary? Maybe it’s unsettled; you’ll wait to see how the day goes. These outlooks could be describing the weather forecast, but our internal outlook is more interesting. What control do we … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What We Measure

Some things we can influence; many others we can’t. It can be surprisingly difficult to accurately identify where we have influence and where there is simply nothing we can do. If you’ve been reading these columns regularly, then you know … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Spinning Our Wheels

One of the rare Choice Theory-related books that I don’t have is entitled Stop Spinning Your Wheels. As I thought I might indulge in a gift to myself, I went browsing for it. That browsing reminded me that the idea … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Purpose, Feedback and Influence

Defining purpose in our lives is interesting to me, but I didn’t know for sure whether others share that interest. Now I know; it’s not just me who sees purpose as a topic worth thinking about. How do I know? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Finding the Good Thing

Humans seem to be wired to easily recognize bad things—danger, fear, hostility—and skip over good things. I’m sure there’s a perfectly sensible survival-related reason for that. However, if the lens we look through shows us only negatives, it makes for … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Trade-offs We Choose

In case your mind feels like it’s still on holiday, here’s a little scenario to spark your imagination. You are going down a hallway behind a person on crutches. They are proceeding hesitantly; giving you the impression that the crutches … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Actions of Optimism

The New Year has arrived. This year, the consistent sentiment that I’ve heard expressed is, “I hope it’s going to be better than last year!” Will 2021 be a better year than 2020? Some folks believe that it will be; … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Make a Difference

We’re in to a New Year! But before we leave Christmas 2020 behind, let’s remember the classic Christmas movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life.” It’s an oldie, yet the message is still worthwhile. George Bailey gets to see the difference he … Continue reading

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