Tag Archives: need satisfaction

Reality Check: You’re probably not alone…

Posted on October 8, 2017 by RealityCheck

“So much paperwork. And it’s all so confusing.” That’s Wanda’s description of her plight right now. She’s entering a stage of life where changes must be made. Many of those changes involve finances. Thus, they involve paperwork, meetings, and decisions. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Tired and Cranky, Anyone?

Posted on May 21, 2017 by RealityCheck

By the time I’d finished reading an article promoting an approach to education that I don’t happen to agree with, I felt tired and a tad cranky. I was fine before I started reading. So, what happened? When it comes … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Meltdown

Posted on May 14, 2017 by RealityCheck

A thousand miles away, my usually sunny friend—she who chooses the most positive possible interpretation of everything—had a meltdown. It’s understandable. She’s been living with the reality of several family members diagnosed with cancers. Then, her mom took a tumble … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When there’s no perfect option

Posted on April 9, 2017 by RealityCheck

Have you ever needed to make a decision, only to find that there isn’t a single perfect option among the possibilities? That’s the usual case, isn’t it? If there were a perfect option, we’d go right ahead and choose that. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Another Route to Self-Esteem

Posted on October 16, 2016 by RealityCheck

Last posting, I recounted Brady’s story. Brady’s high self-esteem as a youngster came crashing down in adulthood when he encountered a boss who didn’t interpret awesomeness as just showing up. The profuse praise Brady was accustomed to receiving for minimal … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Relationships and the Power Need

Posted on April 17, 2016 by RealityCheck

Last time, I suggested that a marriage where both people have a high need for power and low need for love and belonging may present challenges. However, that doesn’t mean that such a couple is doomed to a life of … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Marriage — Who’s in Charge?

Posted on April 10, 2016 by RealityCheck

If you’re happily married, you may have an easy, good-humoured response to the question of who’s in charge in your marriage. Did you say, “my wife/husband”? If you’re struggling in your marriage, however, you may also have a quick response … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Lean for Life

Posted on January 31, 2016 by RealityCheck

You may choose to be pleasantly surprised when you see that the “lean” in this column has nothing to do with dieting! Rather, this “lean” refers to lean manufacturing, and it’s been around for decades. The goal is to reduce … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Presents and Presence

Posted on December 27, 2015 by RealityCheck

How have you spent your December? Indeed, “spent” may be the appropriate word, as folks have been rushing around the malls, the stores, and on-line, shopping for those perfect gifts. As this traditional season of giving comes to a close, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Feeling Unappreciated?

Posted on November 8, 2015 by RealityCheck

Have you ever felt as if you give and give and give, yet receive little appreciation in return? Neighbours Sara and Michelle are different: Michelle gregarious and fun-loving, Sara introspective and serious. Despite their differences, they are content as neighbours, … Continue reading →

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