Tag Archives: perception

Reality Check: If you can’t get out of work….

Work; if you can’t get out of it, you may as well get in to it. Recently, I’ve focused on unhappiness at work. My suggestions come from the general principle that if you want change, you can either change your … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Can you change your workplace reality?

Unhappy at your work? Want it to be better? Don’t know what to do? Sadly, you’re not alone. And while misery might love company, knowing that others share your misery doesn’t help you every day as you trudge off to … Continue reading

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Reality Check: I Could Write Myself a Letter

If I were going to sit right down and write myself a letter…what would I say? More importantly, if you were to write yourself a letter, what would you say? When you find yourself troubled by a question that won’t … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What’s your predisposition?

“Sally said my hair looked nice today. Can you believe that!” Did Sally pay me a compliment? Or was that a subtle insult, implying that she noticed an improvement over those many non-nice hair days? Was Sally being sarcastic? Or … Continue reading

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Reality Check: It wasn’t what I expected

The other day, I was giving a presentation in an unfamiliar room using an unfamiliar computer. For some reason, my presentation wasn’t working quite right. While it looked more or less the way it should, the system wasn’t responding as … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Out of the Ashes

When good things happen, when our needs and expectations are being met, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to feel satisfied and happy. However, when bad things happen, we’re given the delightful and very useful gift of an opportunity … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Happiness and Self-Responsibility

Self-responsibility. In some circles, it’s practically a dirty word. It seems that a cold and frightening picture comes to mind for some folks when they hear that there’s a move afoot to promote self-reliance as a useful skill. It’s as … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Your Happiness and Other People’s Stuff

An application of choice theory called WDEP starts with, “What do you want?” Different people want different things. Taking the time to first identify what you want helps you choose what actions to take to get it. “What you want” … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Happiness of Eliminating Options

Keeping our options open is often perceived as positive. “What are you doing for vacation?” “I’m keeping my options open.” Or, “Have you decided who you will marry?” “No, I’m keeping my options open.” There’s a delightful sense of freedom … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Optimism or Entitlement?

Which do you think leads to a happier, more satisfied life: Expecting that life will be easy and becoming disappointed when you learn that it’s difficult? Or expecting life to be hard and being pleasantly surprised when some things work … Continue reading

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