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Reality Check: Worried about becoming my dad (or mom) syndrome?

It seems that marketers will do anything to convince us that their product is the one for us. (Sounds like I’m choosing skepticism, eh?) Just for fun, picture this as your problem: You’re trying to market a product to young … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Fluffy, Revisited

A few posts ago, I presented this classic quandary: Is it appropriate to deceive someone if you believe the deception is kinder than the truth? Here’s the scenario: Maria’s beloved cat, Fluffy, went missing. Maria responded to the reality of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What does respect look like?

Communication is interesting. We come up with ideas—essentially pictures in our minds—that we want to communicate. Then we use words to share those ideas. We tend to assume that everybody understands words the same way. Take the word “respect.” My … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Are you being bored?

Blissful summer days are a great time to think about school! You’re probably aware that education could be improved. I bet you can come up with a few improvements you’d like right now. Discussions of problems in education are not … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Facebook and Feelings

Some folks choose to be annoyed when they perceive that they have been treated like guinea pigs! So there was some outrage when the results of a Facebook study were recently published in a scientific journal. Here’s the gist of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Truth or Kindness?

Here’s a quandary for you. Martin and Maria are happily married and devoted to each other. Maria has a cat, Fluffy. Fluffy was Maria’s mother’s companion, and since Maria’s mom passed away, Fluffy has become even more precious to Maria. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: More Choice Language

The language we use can both reflect and shape our attitudes. While “choice language” usually refers to something a little spicier, in this column, choice language refers to words and phrases that reflect our choices and our areas of control. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Words of Choice

Although we humans do a lot of talking (and occasionally listening), it can still be difficult to understand each other. Even the words we use with ourselves—our internal dialog—can shape how we understand our lives. Do we believe that we … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A “Map” of Relationships

Responses to the column that asked, “Are you in the people business?” have encouraged me to take this “people business” a little further. If (or when) you realize that you are in the “people business,” then you might find it … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Love is a Verb

How we use our words can shape our thoughts and attitudes. Love is many-splendored indeed, and we use the word “love” in many ways. Anna says, “I’m not in love with my husband anymore. We used to be in love, … Continue reading

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