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Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour
Reality Check: A Model of Motivation
I have some ambivalence about the positive thinking business. It is a business, after all, with books, articles, and motivational speakers. Much of our culture encourages positive thinking, and you’ve even seen suggestions here in this column. Positive thinking complements … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, motivation
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Reality Check: Do, Run, Run…
Last time, I looked at what can happen when a dreamer avoids doing. Taken to the extreme, the dreamer who is stuck on dreaming may never take the action necessary to turn their dream into reality. How about the other … Continue reading
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Tagged internal & external control, making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Impulse to Vent
Have you ever felt that frustration has control of you? That you can’t hold back; you have to let it out somehow? If so, how well has that “letting out” worked for you? Venting can feel really good at the … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, conflict, frustration, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Value of Support
Last post, I told a little story about Sally and her intent to invite a roommate to share her living space. Based on your knowledge of the situation, you anticipated that this arrangement wouldn’t work well. In other words, you … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: If I Know What’s Right for You…
Do you know what’s right for someone else? It’s easy to think that we know exactly what someone should do, think, or feel. And then, it’s easy to tell them! Dr. William Glasser associates the “I-know-what’s-right-for-you” perspective with misery. In … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", improving relationships, offering information
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Reality Check: Time to Double Down?
Not so long ago, in a place not so far away, a government with the very best intentions wanted to encourage kids to eat in a healthy way. A commendable goal. The question: how might one do this? A program … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Habit-Forming
It’s commonly said that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. It’s tempting to believe that if you rigidly adhere to a new behaviour for a set number of days, then it magically becomes engrained in you. You … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing influences, examining wants, happiness, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: The Worry-Weed Patch
Even if you’ve never gardened, you’ve probably noticed that a patch of bare ground doesn’t stay bare for long. Nature doesn’t like empty space. What fills that space? Weeds, of course. Lambs-quarters take up residence in the garden; plantain plants … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, total behaviour, worry
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