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Category Archives: Choosing Behaviour
Reality Check: Scorekeeping and Self-Evaluation
Scorekeeping. We’re all familiar with it. Whether your experience is on the soccer field or at the card table, you know that keeping score can add value to the game. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t keep doing it, right? Fundamentally, … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, comparing with others, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Information in Action
Recently, I came across a near-magical convergence of two of my interests (that’s quality assurance and choice theory, of course.) The weekly quote on my favourite quality assurance website was a choice theory quote from Dr. Wm. Glasser! Glasser said, … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", frustration, offering information
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Reality Check: The Angry Stance
Do you have an automatic mode? That is, do you wake up feeling pretty much the same every day? Is your first reaction to a situation more or less the same, despite whether the situation is positive or negative? Some … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", criticism, dissatisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Smart Praise
I have previously suggested that supportive behaviours, such as encouraging and offering recognition, are helpful for building strong relationships. How about praise? Is it an effective way to recognize and encourage? When little Joey started elementary school, he’d already had … Continue reading
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Tagged learning, offering information
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Reality Check: To Choose or Not to Choose?
In recent public service ads, a teenager says something like, “My parents didn’t tell me that driving while high was a bad idea, so it must be ok.” One logical response is, “If your parents didn’t tell you it’s a … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", guilt, making choices, offering information
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Reality Check: When Positive Thinking Meets External Control
Last post, I suggested that positive thinking can be helpful, but with a caveat—to be effective, it needs to be paired with positive action. So, if positive thinking is good, then shouldn’t everybody get on board? You know, “Turn that … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", choosing thoughts, offering information
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Reality Check: The Value of Compassion
What does it mean to be compassionate? What differentiates a compassionate person from others? Elsie values compassion; in her mind, it is simply the right way to be. She easily finds ways to treat strangers compassionately by giving of her … Continue reading
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Tagged basic needs, making choices, offering information
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Reality Check: The Value of Delayed Gratification
Would you stop drinking all sugary drinks for a year for $500? That’s the offer that one family made to their children. You could view that as bribery. Or, you could view it as an innovative teaching method. Regardless, one … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, examining wants, need satisfaction
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Reality Check: “Should” versus “Could”
One little word sometimes makes a world of difference, doesn’t it? Some are obvious contrasts: “I love you” versus “I hate you;” or “I don’t care” versus “I do care.” However, other small changes are not so obvious, yet have … Continue reading
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