Tag Archives: choosing thoughts

Reality Check: Trapped by Thoughts? Here’s a Suggestion

Posted on February 20, 2022 by RealityCheck

No time to think? Feel that you can’t stop what you’re doing for one minute? People are depending on you. Things must be done; we can think later. If that’s your perception, you know it’s hard to stop, step back … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: A Spirit of Hope

Posted on January 9, 2022 by RealityCheck

“Work without Hope draws nectar in a sieve.” If you are a poetry fan, then you may know this poem by Samuel Taylor Coleridge entitled, “Work without Hope.” Work is more satisfying when it comes with the hope that you … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Finding the Courage to Compliment

Posted on December 19, 2021 by RealityCheck

Do you feel weird when giving someone a compliment? If so, you’re not alone. I know this because Dan Pink, best-selling motivational author, created a short video on “How to compliment people without feeling like a weasel.” This sounds a … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Do You Feel Appreciated?

Posted on November 28, 2021 by RealityCheck

Knowing that we are genuinely appreciated is satisfying. From a choice theory perspective, we might say that appreciation satisfies our need for power, recognition, esteem. Regardless of how we analyze it, appreciation feels good. I sincerely hope that you have … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Adapting for the Future

Posted on November 7, 2021 by RealityCheck

If you gained two pounds last weekend, will you weigh a hundred pounds more in a year? Look ahead twenty years. At that rate, you’ve expanded by 2000 pounds! That wouldn’t be a ton of fun, would it? We know … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Can We Choose Our Response?

Posted on October 24, 2021 by RealityCheck

Travelling can be difficult at the best of times. As these times aren’t exactly the best of times, opportunities for difficulties are even higher now. Here’s a travel story; it’s about choices. For months, a friend we’ll call Emma has … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: I’d Rather Choose…

Posted on October 17, 2021 by RealityCheck

One of the tips from a popular money-management book entitled “The Smart Cookies” is something the authors refer to as the “Rather Factor.” It’s easy to forget a budget when we are faced with an appealing impulse purchase. After we’ve … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To-Dos and Purpose

Posted on October 10, 2021 by RealityCheck

How’s your to-do list? Does it motivate you by giving you purpose and direction? Or is it more like a collection of chores—a hamster wheel that demands lots of effort to keep going round and round but doesn’t seem to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: You and Me Against the Problem

Posted on October 4, 2021 by RealityCheck

Just when everything seemed to be going well, Amy got a wakeup call. It was a “heart incident,” and it demanded that she turn her attention toward aspects of her life that she had neglected. You probably know the drill. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Lessons from an Ice Cube

Posted on September 12, 2021 by RealityCheck

How’s your motivation? Are you full of get-up and go, with plans and actions to get to your goals? Or are you listless or discouraged, where “What’s the use” comes to mind? Which state would you prefer? And if one … Continue reading →

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