Tag Archives: examining options

Reality Check: The Art of Asking Questions

Posted on October 20, 2019 by RealityCheck

When someone asks you a question, it’s a great feeling to be able to answer with confidence and competence. The ability to answer questions is a useful skill. Another skill that’s just as valuable is the ability to ask questions. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Upsides and Downsides

Posted on August 3, 2019 by RealityCheck

Is there such a thing as too much optimism? Does optimism have a downside? My general belief is that there are upsides and downsides for most everything. Thus the process of making choices is pretty simple, in theory anyway. All … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Face of Kindness

Posted on July 21, 2019 by RealityCheck

A common bit of advice for living a good life is, “Be kind.” I certainly agree. Kindness will likely result in better relationships, quality of life, and more happiness than being nasty. It’s obvious what it means to “be kind.” … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Finding Affinity

Posted on June 2, 2019 by RealityCheck

If you’ve ever been overwhelmed, you know it’s not very pleasant. When you are faced with demands from all sides, unknowns about the future, all the uncertainties…It’s overwhelming. As I was reviewing a tool used with teams to gather and … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Do your choices satisfy you?

Posted on May 19, 2019 by RealityCheck

We make many choices—some consequential; others trivial. Does your choice-making process satisfy you? Or aggravate you? Or does it depend on the choice? Barry Schwartz needed a pair of jeans. In the big scheme of things, picking out jeans isn’t … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Telling It Like It Is

Posted on March 31, 2019 by RealityCheck

Do you find it difficult to talk about things that are really important? It’s easier to talk about the trivial, especially when we agree. We commiserate about the weather and the price of gas. We share our delight about the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Happiness from your Money

Posted on December 3, 2018 by RealityCheck

There are many more important things than money: health, family, relationships, personal growth, just to name a few. Money isn’t even mentioned in the choice theory list of five basic needs: security/survival, love/belonging, power, freedom, and fun. However, while money … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Your Menu Choices

Posted on November 4, 2018 by RealityCheck

If you want something to grow, it’s generally a good idea to feed it. Don’t want more? Then don’t feed it. That reasoning seems to hold true for the waistline; what if we apply it to emotions? Noreen looks back … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What we choose to want

Posted on October 28, 2018 by RealityCheck

We do a lot of comparing, don’t we? In Choice Theory, Dr. Glasser even talks about a “comparing place” in our brains. He uses the image of a balance scale; on one side sits what we want and on the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Available Choices

Posted on September 17, 2018 by RealityCheck

Are you ever in a situation where you have no good choices? It’s especially difficult if you can picture the perfect choice. You wish that option was available; you might even mislead yourself into believing it exists, when in fact, … Continue reading →

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