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Reality Check: Going My Way?

Are you stressed? Most of us feel stressed some of the time. Some feel stressed all of the time. One perception of stress is that it’s caused by things outside of us that we can’t control. Whether it’s our jobs, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Change–Like It or Not, Part 2

According to Rick Maurer, resistance to change occurs on several levels. Last column, I indicated that one level is intellectual—“I don’t understand it.” That resistance can be addressed by providing information and engaging in logical discussions. The second level of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Change–Like it or Not? Part 1

If you’re a person or group promoting a change that’s being met with opposition, it can be comforting to blame the opposition on the assertion “people don’t like change.” When you believe that you are facing resistance because other people … Continue reading

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Reality Check: I Heard a Story

I heard a story recently. Here’s how it goes: “When mom was admitted to the hospital, the nurse asked me to come in and show them how I handle mom’s feeding tube.” What was your first reaction to that statement? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Pigs, Cows, and Perceptions

A guy is driving down the road minding his own business. An oncoming car approaches; the woman driving rolls down the window and yells: “Pig!” Instantly the guy takes offense! How dare she call me a pig! I wasn’t doing … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Tell Yourself a Story

Are you a storyteller? Do you like to tell a tale to a group? Do you enjoy entertaining your friends with anecdotes or creating stories for your grandkids? If you don’t, you may not think of yourself as a storyteller. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: If Only I Were…

It’s easy to find faults in others if one is inclined to do so. If you choose a mindset that compares others to your own internal standard of “how people should be,” you’ll readily see how they fall short. If … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Thank you; I accept your offer

Do you find it hard to accept gifts? If you fret about what other people think about you, accepting can be difficult. Gillian has money woes. She lost financial ground after a job loss and went into debt. Although she’s … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Quality for Life

My introduction to Dr. Glasser’s work was accidental. Wherever there are miserable people, Dr. Glasser encouraged learning and using choice theory. He counseled and wrote about relationships, marriage, families, addictions, health, and schools. There’s also plenty of misery in workplaces. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Try a Different Stress Model?

Stress. Everybody’s had it. Yet some people seem to manage—or even thrive—in stressful environments, whereas others can barely cope. There are plenty of possible explanations for these differences: genetics, upbringing, experience, training, and so on. We don’t have control over … Continue reading

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