Category Archives: Relationships

Reality Check: Agreements Among Friends

My old friend passed away. After a century of life, he’d reached his natural end. While our friendship was not so very old; it spanned only about a decade, it had huge influence on me. It was a special friendship, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Working with Unpredictable People

While we can never predict exactly what will happen, many situations are quite predictable. It’s painful to touch the hot stove. If I don’t believe it, it only takes one try to learn a lesson I won’t soon forget. Likewise, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: How Can You Tell Whether It’s A Good Relationship?

Choice theory emphasizes self-evaluation. As the word implies, to self-evaluate is to evaluate, for yourself, how well something is working. To self-evaluate, you consider what you want, compare it to the reality, and then determine how well they match. It’s … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Much Ado About Recognition

The onset of summer is a great time of year. There’s fresh grass, baby birds, the promise of warmth, and maybe even some leisure time! For me, this time of year often coincides with finalizing some activities and interactions. Thus, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Gift of Recognition

When you flip through the flyers, watch TV, or even read a newspaper at this time of year, you’ll see gift suggestions. There’s lots of opportunity to show that you care by buying something. As I was pondering gift-shopping, some … Continue reading

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Reality Check: When Fairness Holds Us Back

The mother-daughter conflict story told in Choice Theory by Dr. Glasser that I’ve been referring to has one more interesting dimension that some of us might find troubling. Briefly, the story goes like this: Mom works all day and is … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Love, Clarified and Committed

Recently I was gifted with a book entitled, “What is this thing called Love?” Written by Dr. Glasser and his wife Carleen, the book has a clear purpose. It’s for women who have been told, “I love you,” but who … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Love, Practically Speaking

Different people want different things. It’s a good thing too, isn’t it? Otherwise, we’d all want the same house, the same job, the same cat, and…the same mate. Clearly, we don’t all want the same mate, but many of us … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Benefit of the Doubt

We never really know what’s going on inside someone else’s head, do we? Even among the people closest to us—our friends and family—we can have misunderstandings. For example, your friend says something you perceive to be offensive; later you realize … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choices in Caring

Caring, loving, supporting, and encouraging are wonderful, positive behaviours. When we genuinely care for each other, we can improve our relationships and satisfy our need for love and belonging. As we can only control ourselves, it’s helpful to offer our … Continue reading

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