Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: Practice Makes Better

Posted on February 19, 2017 by RealityCheck

We get good at what we practice. Even if we never completely master a skill, the more we practice, the more we improve. Conversely, if we don’t practice, we won’t improve and may even lose what skill we had. In … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Rely and to Be Reliable

Posted on February 12, 2017 by RealityCheck

There’s a particular satisfaction for me when someone I know has made progress in their life. It’s especially gratifying if I can perceive that I had contributed to that progress, even in a tiny way. Often, the achievements are relatively … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Purpose of Difficulty?

Posted on October 31, 2016 by RealityCheck

At some point in your life, you will probably go through a difficult patch. Perhaps you perceive that you have had more than your share of difficulties already. Maybe you’ve witnessed someone whose life seems to be filled with one … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Demonstrations of Love

Posted on October 23, 2016 by RealityCheck

Dr. Wm. Glasser says that all humans need love and belonging. Some people need a lot; others not so much, but everybody has this genetic need. We have other genetic needs too, but for now, we’ll just look at love. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Another Route to Self-Esteem

Posted on October 16, 2016 by RealityCheck

Last posting, I recounted Brady’s story. Brady’s high self-esteem as a youngster came crashing down in adulthood when he encountered a boss who didn’t interpret awesomeness as just showing up. The profuse praise Brady was accustomed to receiving for minimal … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Bears, Breakdowns & Choice Theory

Posted on October 2, 2016 by RealityCheck

The anecdotes and characters in my columns are usually composite characters and fictionalized situations. However, occasionally, I do write about an actual situation or person (after asking permission, of course.) Such is the case for this column, where the behaviour … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: You’re a Character!

Posted on September 12, 2016 by RealityCheck

When you hear someone say, “He (or she) is a character!” the implication is usually that the person is kind of…quirky. On the other hand, when someone shows a lot of character, the implication is that they’ve demonstrated strength in … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Work Hard, Be Nice, Keep Commitments

Posted on September 12, 2016 by RealityCheck

Work Hard; Be Nice; Keep Commitments. Is that bossy? How about: Do you want a life filled with choice and opportunity? The Knowledge IS Power Program (KIPP) schools in the US serve students in educationally underserved communities. The goal: “college … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Change–Like it or Not? Part 1

Posted on July 3, 2016 by RealityCheck

If you’re a person or group promoting a change that’s being met with opposition, it can be comforting to blame the opposition on the assertion “people don’t like change.” When you believe that you are facing resistance because other people … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Lessons from Puzzles

Posted on June 12, 2016 by RealityCheck

You might recognize the name Will Shortz if you are a puzzle enthusiast. Mr. Shortz is the New York Times Crossword Puzzle editor and he knows a thing or two about puzzles. Life can sometimes seem like a puzzle. When … Continue reading →

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