Tag Archives: discouragement

Reality Check: Spinning Our Wheels

Posted on February 28, 2021 by RealityCheck

One of the rare Choice Theory-related books that I don’t have is entitled Stop Spinning Your Wheels. As I thought I might indulge in a gift to myself, I went browsing for it. That browsing reminded me that the idea … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Spirit of a Conversation

Posted on December 27, 2020 by RealityCheck

With limitations on visiting people, how we handle our conversations may matter even more now than during normal times. Why? When we can’t talk face to face, we can’t see expressions or body language. It’s harder to distinguish between a … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Perfection Trap

Posted on November 15, 2020 by RealityCheck

How do you feel about this statement: “If I can’t do something perfectly, I may as well not do it at all”? While different people have different attitudes toward perfection, there are some situations where perfect accomplishment is what we … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Our Best Selves

Posted on August 12, 2020 by RealityCheck

What comes to your mind when I refer to our best selves? Is our best self when we “put our best foot forward?” Perhaps so. However, if putting our best foot forward is only to make a good impression—essentially, to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Doing the Hard Thing

Posted on June 7, 2020 by RealityCheck

“I don’t even know why I am doing this.” My friend, who we’ll call Julie for this little story, had hit a rough spot on her way toward a goal that’s important to her. Because I’m a loyal friend with … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Courage and Discouragement

Posted on February 29, 2020 by RealityCheck

If you’ve ever felt the thud of discouragement, you may have also felt that you have no control over how you respond. It’s a powerless feeling, isn’t it? What brings on those discouraged feelings? Here are a few of the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Take It to Heart? Or Not?

Posted on January 18, 2020 by RealityCheck

Whenever people need to interact with each other, there are opportunities for conflict. Conflict shows up among friends, within families, in community discussions and at workplaces. That’s no surprise. After all, one reason for conflict is because people don’t agree … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Urge to Justify

Posted on December 1, 2019 by RealityCheck

Most of us have been on the receiving end of criticism at some point. If that’s you, then you may also be familiar with the urge to respond by justifying your actions. Criticism sometimes comes from the people closest to … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Look Back, What Do You See?

Posted on December 28, 2018 by RealityCheck

As we approach the end of another year, many of us like to take stock. Part of taking stock involves looking back over the past year or over many past years, to assess where we’ve been and where we are … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Your Discouragement Antidote Kit

Posted on August 5, 2018 by RealityCheck

Does discouragement have a colour? If so, is it grey? How about discouraging weather? Rain, perhaps? When discouraged, does it seem like there’s a rainy, grey, discouraged filter over everything? For example, let’s say we feel happy and in control. … Continue reading →

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