Tag Archives: examining wants

Reality Check: Aesop’s Snake

Posted on November 27, 2016 by RealityCheck

Do you believe there’s good in everyone? That even the most awful person is good at their core? Values and beliefs form part of what Dr. Wm. Glasser refers to as our “Quality World.” Our beliefs influence our perceptions, decisions … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Time Trap

Posted on November 6, 2016 by RealityCheck

There exists a near-universal excuse to get out of most any activity. It goes like this: “Oh, I’m sorry. I don’t have enough time to do that.” Have you ever used this excuse? I have. So many people feel time-stressed … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Battle of the Hummingbirds

Posted on August 21, 2016 by RealityCheck

If you have a hummingbird feeder, then you know the routine. A single hummingbird will sit on a perch and eat. But add another, and suddenly everybody is flitting around, hovering, staring, chasing, and squawking. More energy is spent bothering … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Joe’s New Job

Posted on August 7, 2016 by RealityCheck

Joe’s employment history could be described as “spotty.” It’s not that he can’t find work; Joe is able to get hired relatively easily. He’s articulate and presents himself in an interview as being pleasant and intelligent. However, Joe has developed … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Elevator Problem

Posted on July 24, 2016 by RealityCheck

Regardless of your occupation or your life situation, you will always find some kind of problems. So, the ability to solve problems is a valuable skill to develop. An early step in most problem-solving processes is “define the problem.” Now, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Going My Way?

Posted on July 17, 2016 by RealityCheck

Are you stressed? Most of us feel stressed some of the time. Some feel stressed all of the time. One perception of stress is that it’s caused by things outside of us that we can’t control. Whether it’s our jobs, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Change–Like It or Not, Part 2

Posted on July 10, 2016 by RealityCheck

According to Rick Maurer, resistance to change occurs on several levels. Last column, I indicated that one level is intellectual—“I don’t understand it.” That resistance can be addressed by providing information and engaging in logical discussions. The second level of … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: I Heard a Story

Posted on June 26, 2016 by RealityCheck

I heard a story recently. Here’s how it goes: “When mom was admitted to the hospital, the nurse asked me to come in and show them how I handle mom’s feeding tube.” What was your first reaction to that statement? … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Wisdom from Whys

Posted on June 5, 2016 by RealityCheck

The “5 Whys” is a technique that’s sometimes used in workplaces to analyze and solve problems. We use 5 Whys because it can help us figure out the “the root cause” of a problem. The root cause is like the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Relationships and the Power Need

Posted on April 17, 2016 by RealityCheck

Last time, I suggested that a marriage where both people have a high need for power and low need for love and belonging may present challenges. However, that doesn’t mean that such a couple is doomed to a life of … Continue reading →

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