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Reality Check: Change–Like It or Not, Part 2

According to Rick Maurer, resistance to change occurs on several levels. Last column, I indicated that one level is intellectual—“I don’t understand it.” That resistance can be addressed by providing information and engaging in logical discussions. The second level of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: I Heard a Story

I heard a story recently. Here’s how it goes: “When mom was admitted to the hospital, the nurse asked me to come in and show them how I handle mom’s feeding tube.” What was your first reaction to that statement? … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Wisdom from Whys

The “5 Whys” is a technique that’s sometimes used in workplaces to analyze and solve problems. We use 5 Whys because it can help us figure out the “the root cause” of a problem. The root cause is like the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Relationships and the Power Need

Last time, I suggested that a marriage where both people have a high need for power and low need for love and belonging may present challenges. However, that doesn’t mean that such a couple is doomed to a life of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Model of Motivation

I have some ambivalence about the positive thinking business. It is a business, after all, with books, articles, and motivational speakers. Much of our culture encourages positive thinking, and you’ve even seen suggestions here in this column. Positive thinking complements … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What Does Love & Support Look Like?

Valentine’s Day is around the corner, so along with eating heart-shaped candies and buying heart-shaped jewellery, it seems like an appropriate time to think about love. What does love and support look like to you? If you buy into some … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Mistake-Proofing for Relationships

Mistakes happen. When you make a mistake, you probably take some kind of action to try to correct it. But wouldn’t it be great if we could prevent mistakes from happening in the first place? Businesses that intend to survive … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Quality for Life

My introduction to Dr. Glasser’s work was accidental. Wherever there are miserable people, Dr. Glasser encouraged learning and using choice theory. He counseled and wrote about relationships, marriage, families, addictions, health, and schools. There’s also plenty of misery in workplaces. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Comparison that Works

If you’ve been reading Reality Check for a while, you know that I suggest not comparing yourself to others. Why? It’s futile, as you can’t control how others are doing. Further, your comparison may lead you to believe that you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Feeling Unappreciated?

Have you ever felt as if you give and give and give, yet receive little appreciation in return? Neighbours Sara and Michelle are different: Michelle gregarious and fun-loving, Sara introspective and serious. Despite their differences, they are content as neighbours, … Continue reading

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