Tag Archives: examining wants

Reality Check: Goals and the Posts That Define Them

Posted on May 31, 2020 by RealityCheck

The Reality Therapy approach, as structured by Dr. Robert Wubbolding, starts with a fundamental question: “What do you want?” For many, those wants include benefits for others. For example, I want career success for people I’ve worked with. There’s a … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Managing our Personal Resources

Posted on April 26, 2020 by RealityCheck

Some folks are choosing to use the current disruption in their lives as an opportunity to reassess what’s important. That is, they are reassessing how they are using their personal resources. Every one of us has personal resources, even though … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Making of a Habit

Posted on January 4, 2020 by RealityCheck

The coming of the New Year inspires many of us to make New Year’s resolutions. If you have been thinking that a change in your behaviour is in order, then the New Year is as good a time as any … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Change Ourselves

Posted on November 3, 2019 by RealityCheck

There must be thousands of personality tests available on websites, magazines, and facebook. Some people think they’re silly, but plenty of others like them. People like to learn about themselves, and many also have a wish along the lines of, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Art of Asking Questions

Posted on October 20, 2019 by RealityCheck

When someone asks you a question, it’s a great feeling to be able to answer with confidence and competence. The ability to answer questions is a useful skill. Another skill that’s just as valuable is the ability to ask questions. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Essence of Home

Posted on October 12, 2019 by RealityCheck

What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Different wants for different folks

Posted on September 14, 2019 by RealityCheck

“I don’t know why you think you need all that stuff.” From his mom’s perspective, James is continuously on kijiji, eBay and buy & sell groups, looking for a deal. He’s accumulated tools, parts, gadgets of all sorts. “Why?” she … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World

Posted on September 14, 2019 by RealityCheck

Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Strategies for Choice

Posted on May 25, 2019 by RealityCheck

Previously, I discussed a theory popularized by Barry Schwartz in, “The Paradox of Choice” that there are two choice-making approaches. Some people are maximizers; intent on making the absolute best choices they possibly can. Others are satisficers, who stop looking … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What you see is what you get

Posted on April 13, 2019 by RealityCheck

WYSIWYG, pronounced “whizzywig,” means, “What you see is what you get.” I know the phrase from the olden days of computers—back when it was a big deal to have the display on the screen actually reflect what was printed. Computer … Continue reading →

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