Reality Check: Perspectives on Luxury

Posted on August 23, 2015 by RealityCheck

It can be interesting to see how people used to live, so I took the opportunity this summer to tour the historic Wyatt House in Summerside. Through that tour, one gets a glimpse into the lives of some very wealthy folks, spanning a century or so.

One of my observations is that some of those “historic artifacts” are familiar items many of us grew up with (or in my case, still use). If you, too, are blessed by having already lived a few years, you know what I’m talking about.

Some objects, such as the gold plated china and the intricately carved furniture, were truly evidence of wealth. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When I Grow Up

Posted on August 16, 2015 by RealityCheck

“I’m still trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up.” You’d expect that from children, teenagers, and young adults. Yet I hear it from folks who are well into their working lives or even in retirement.

If that’s you, there’s no need to perceive your uncertainty as aimlessness or indecision. Far from it. You are in good company—with people who have jobs, homes, families, and activities. From the outside, they appear to know exactly what they want to do and they’re doing it. Inside, they wonder, “What is my ideal purpose? How can I best be of service? What, really, do I want to be?”

Not everyone wonders about such questions. If you’re one who does, though, you know it would be satisfying to be able to say, “That’s it, I’ve got it!”

So, how do you get there? Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Better Left Unsaid?

Posted on August 9, 2015 by RealityCheck

Communication is generally recognized as being essential to the development of satisfying relationships. I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here. All kinds of relationships: friends, work-related, parent-child, student-teacher, benefit when people can communicate effectively.

Did you notice the word “effectively” in that statement? While we may talk a lot, not all talk is effective communication. For example, choosing to argue, to use sarcasm, to label, to accuse, to blame, or to complain are communication choices that don’t exactly help build close, satisfying relationships! Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Choice Not Taken

Posted on August 2, 2015 by RealityCheck

After we’ve made a choice, the option we’ve chosen seems to become our focus. For example, you make a choice in a restaurant: “I’ll have the fish and chips, please.” When your fish arrives, it’s your focus. You might be satisfied with your choice, or you might be dissatisfied and learn to make a different choice in the future.

There’s another way of looking, though. When we select one choice, we are, by definition, giving up other choices. By saying “yes” to the fish, I am also saying “no” to the scallops.

For important choices, it can be helpful to consider not only, “What will I choose?” but also, “What am I giving up? What am I choosing to reject?” Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Engagement as an Employability Skill

Posted on July 27, 2015 by RealityCheck

Skills such as getting along with others, overcoming shyness, and developing a willingness to learn can help us get and keep employment. I’ve been referring to these as “employability skills.”
Even if you don’t care deeply about your workplace, such skills are still worthwhile as they increase satisfaction in non-work life, too!
The skill I’ve chosen for this last look at employability is one that can make one’s whole life more satisfying when we choose to use it. It’s the skill of engagement.
Do you know what engagement looks like? Have you been in a store where the customer-service folks want to make sure that you get exactly what you want and do their best to ensure that you are delighted? Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Willingness to Learn as an Employability Skill

Posted on July 19, 2015 by RealityCheck

Whether you spend time in a workplace, school, or in blissful retirement, you’ve likely noticed that there’s a lot of change going on. Sometimes, it’s even for the better.

Especially in the workplace, willingness to change is essential. Why?

Our competitors change; improving their products and services. They may even have the audacity to lower their prices! Suddenly, the perfectly acceptable product that we’d produced for years doesn’t look so good by comparison. Our previously loyal customers stray to our competitors.

We didn’t change, but they did. Thus our situation changes, like it or not.

How to cope? A company needs to be willing to learn, adapt and innovate to remain successful. But a “company” doesn’t learn; that’s up to the folks within. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Overcoming Shyness is an Employability Skill

Posted on July 12, 2015 by RealityCheck

In recent posts, I’ve suggested that the ability to get along with co-workers, bosses, and customers is a valuable employability skill. Unfortunately for some folks, shyness makes it difficult to get along.
Have you ever perceived that the “sweet talkers” get more opportunities, better jobs, and more easily make friends than others? It’s not necessarily because they are the best qualified or the best friend-material; it could simply be that they present themselves with confidence.
It may seem unfair if you are saddled with shyness while others are blessed with self-assurance. They don’t get tongue-tied, self-conscious, or embarrassed. Everything comes easily to them! Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along… But How?

Posted on July 5, 2015 by RealityCheck

Last post, I suggested that the skill of “getting along” is essential if you are to succeed in most any workplace.
If you find yourself in disputes or isolated from your co-workers, then it may help to work on your “getting along” skills. How? Here are some suggestions.
1. Recognize that getting along with people is important. It’s hard to make an effort at anything unless you believe it matters. If you want to get/stay employed, then you need to get along. When the going gets tough (as it likely will) you may need to remind yourself that it matters. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Employability Skill of Getting Along

Posted on June 30, 2015 by RealityCheck

Employability skills are the skills that help you get and keep a job. You might have thought that the technical skills that enable you to do your specific job are all you need in the way of employability skills.
For example, if you work in retail, you need to run a cash register. If you work in medical technology, you need to analyze samples. And if you are a pilot, it’s good to understand your instrumentation!
However, while job-specific skills are essential, there’s an additional set of skills that’s needed by pretty much anyone who wants to remain gainfully employed.
While sometimes referred to as “soft” skills, there is nothing soft about them.

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Reality Check: Lessons from the Pond

Posted on June 28, 2015 by RealityCheck

I don’t fish. However, I was on a pond recently, fishing. Everybody knows that while there may be moments of actual fish-catching while fishing, there is inevitably plenty of think-time in between those moments.

Here are some of the life lessons that came to me during my time on the pond. Continue reading →

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