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Love in Action
Different people want different things. It’s a good thing too, isn’t it? Otherwise, we’d all want the same house, the same job, the same cat, and…the same mate. Some folks believe that somewhere out there is a perfect partner, made … Continue reading
Reality Check: The Essence of Home
What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged dissatisfaction, examining wants, freedom, internal & external control, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: How Can You Tell Whether It’s A Good Relationship?
Choice theory emphasizes self-evaluation. As the word implies, to self-evaluate is to evaluate, for yourself, how well something is working. To self-evaluate, you consider what you want, compare it to the reality, and then determine how well they match. It’s … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged improving relationships, perception, responsibility, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Mind Reader
Would you like to read minds? When someone looks you in the eye and tells you a tale, do you wonder, “What are they really thinking?” On the one hand, the ability to read minds sounds great. You’d never be … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, conflict, perception
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Reality Check: Reflections from the Storm
In these posts, I’ve often mentioned power as one of our basic needs. The power I refer to is the need to feel that we are recognized and have value. However, when we had “a bit of a blow” here … Continue reading
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Tagged basic needs, gratitude, power, priorities
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Reality Check: Different wants for different folks
“I don’t know why you think you need all that stuff.” From his mom’s perspective, James is continuously on kijiji, eBay and buy & sell groups, looking for a deal. He’s accumulated tools, parts, gadgets of all sorts. “Why?” she … Continue reading
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Tagged "should", basic needs, criticism, examining wants
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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World
Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, improving relationships, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: Suggestions for the Workplace Feud
Last post, I described a workplace feud between Millie and Billy that’s gotten out of hand. What to do? Dr. Glasser suggested that the need for power is a basic human need. Because “power” is such a charged word, I … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, need satisfaction, power, work
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Reality Check: The Workplace Feud
Do you remember the old western movies that featured families fighting each other for generations? The original dispute is long forgotten, but the hatred continues. Feuds aren’t confined to families, and one place where they are particularly unhelpful is in … Continue reading